When you read a “Date a Man Who …” article they aren’t asking you to date a man.
Date a man who dances, rides a motorbike, pumps weight. Date a man who’s swift, an alpha male, someone who looks after themselves. Date a man who writes with passion, knows what he wants and won’t let anything stand in his way. Date a list of manly traits that simply never ends. There are hundreds of “Date a Man” articles out there, I know I’ve written a few myself, but I know the trick. You see to write a piece of art, an article worth sharing there is only one tried and tested way; the writing has to hold your heart, the heart of the man who wants the date. Those articles aren’t saying date a man who is this or that, no, those articles are written by authors and those authors aren’t asking you to date a man, they’re asking you to date them. Don’t date a man who is like everyone else these poetic lines say, date a man like me instead.
So don’t date a man who dances because he knows how to lead you across the floor, hold you in his arms and sweep you off your feet. Sure he is capable of that and more but don’t date that guy, what I mean to say is I’m that guy, date me. Don’t date him because he hears the music that is life and rides those waves to wherever they may go. Don’t date a guy like that because his passions overtake him and he can’t help but show and share. Sure a man like that will show you what it means to be alive but I don’t want you to date any man who dances, no, that man that I describe is me. Sure I have a little work and I’m haven’t yet become this guy that I’ve detailed so succinctly, but that guy who dances is me, or the me I’m trying to be. So don’t date a man who dances, date the man who is me.
Don’t date a man who writes because he sees the world through wonder. His mind is sharp and everything has meaning but I don’t want you to date that guy, what I mean is I’m that guy, date me. A guy who writes has a million stories just waiting to be told, sure, date a guy who writes and those stories are yours to unfold. A guy who writes has worlds inside his head but I’m not suggesting you to date any old writer, their worlds aren’t mine, I’m suggesting you date the writer that is me. There are a billion things a writer sees that he never has a chance to spell; he sees a world connected in every little tell. There is a tale in every connection waiting for his pen so he writes to you, pleading to you to date a man who writes. But the tale he sees isn’t the one written, no the story in his head is not for you to date a writer, no, it’s for you to date the writer who is him.
So don’t date a man, any old man, date the man who is me. Somewhere while I was dancing or writing I found this man who is me. I wrote some articles suggesting that you consider people who are unusual, people who do amazing things. Yet in the writing of these articles I had to put in a person, a person capable of such things. I had to put in my heart because that’s the only way I know how to pen, and I had to put in my experiences because these are the things I know. In putting in my heart and mind somehow though I found love, I found the guy that I should be, I found a guy I should adore.
Don’t date a man because of this or that but date a man like me. Date the me that found myself and took the time to write about just how amazing I can be. I didn’t see it at the time, who was I but an ugly old sod who had been through a divorce, yet a part of me did, the part of me that took the time to write. I asked the world if they wanted to date a man who dances, if they wanted to date a man who writes, because those men are me. But I wasn’t asking if the world wanted to date a man who did this or that; I was asking the world if they would date me. So don’t date a man, date me.
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*A minstrel was a medieval European bard who performed songs whose lyrics told stories of distant places or of existing or imaginary historical events. Although minstrels created their own tales, often they would memorize and embellish the works of others. The Modern Minstrel observes the world around him and shares it with us as lyrical story. This series was inspired by Luke Davis, whose eye for story and ear for lyrical prose are featured here.
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