If He Said He Had a Great Time but He Didn’t Text… [Video]

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I think there is a common misconception
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when it comes to attraction that if
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someone said they had a good time that
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means they’re going to call the problem
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with I had a good time is that we can
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feel we had a good time in lots of
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different situations I’ve sat with
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people strangers having a conversation
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and thought that was nice but I didn’t
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want to go out with them afterwards it
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was just a that was nice and it’s also a
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polite thing to say at the end of a day
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isn’t it I had a good time that was
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really nice see you soon you ever done
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that see you soon Audrey said that
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recently to someone she made a wrong or
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Jay she called a wrong number and they
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went okay it’s no problem and she said
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all right speak to you soon and put down
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the phone
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you said speak to you soon to a wrong
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number so can we trust anything in life
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because Audrey is the most honest person
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I know I actually think
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there is a way to get rid of this
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mystery of course there’s always a
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number of reasons someone might not call
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or text you maybe they got back with
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their ex three days later you never know
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maybe they got unbelievably busy with
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work maybe they left the country and
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went on holiday who knows why things
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didn’t pan out but there is one very
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common reason why date one doesn’t turn
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into date two and that is a lack of
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chemistry so you can be on a date with
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someone and build connection through
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good conversation you can even enjoy
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someone’s company that doesn’t mean that
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there’s chemistry that doesn’t mean you
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feel that spark and the truth is the
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thing that carries most people from one
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date to the next
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is not a really nice connection it’s
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real fiery chemistry that’s the thing
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that makes us go I must see this person
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again what are you doing tomorrow that’s
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the thing that’s the fuel and too many
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of us aren’t generating that kind of
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fuel because we’re relying too much on
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just nice conversation so I wanted to
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give you today seven tests to know if
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you created enough chemistry to get you
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from one day to another Jameson I feel
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like this is a bit of an old school
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video I feel like this is a Back to
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Basics fundamentals I feel like I could
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have been making this in my tiny little
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studio apartment we were shooting in in
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the early days can we cut to that real
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quick to show everyone as we go through
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I’m going to dissect it and tell you
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what I love about it but now we’re here
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get the hula hoop
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don’t make it the hula hooping clip
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anyone who can do it like a really good
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hula hoop motion
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that’s sexy
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Jameson you can Photoshop the hula hoop
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in right not just gonna be hump in the
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air
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you told me you deleted the hula hooping
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clip
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oh no I did definitely
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test number one did you touch touch is
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one of those catalysts for attraction if
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we use it right of course we don’t want
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to be constantly touching someone
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throughout a date that would be
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uncomfortable and of course there are
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areas to touch someone on a date the
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inside of a leg Jameson there would be
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too much I said that like Jameson’s
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guilty of that all the time a little arm
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Grays you laugh and you touch someone’s
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arm you say do you want a menu okay let
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me grab you one and as you grab the menu
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you just touch their arm lightly or
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maybe they tease you and you push you
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give them a little push all these
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moments create touch it could even be
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like you’re sat at a bar with someone
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having some food and a couple of
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cocktails and then you stand up and go
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to the bathroom and on the way to the
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bathroom you sort of just Shuffle past
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them and put your arms by on their their
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back as you Shuffle past them you know
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and by the way I think this is better in
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uh direction of woman to man than man to
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woman I think men you have to be a lot
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more careful with this but women you can
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you can do some of these things that
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create just a moment of connection
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through touch ask yourself at the end of
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the day at any point on that date
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did I actually touch the person test
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number two did you make at any point on
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the date slow
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seductive eye contact pace is a very
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important thing on a date I’m not just
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talking about eye contact here I’m
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talking about how slowly you speak at
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certain times how slowly you move at
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certain times when you think of someone
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confident and sexy there’s a pace to
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that that slows down when I go beyond
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confident and I say seductive
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it starts to get even more slow doesn’t
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it well you can mimic that on a date in
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certain moments the way you look at
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someone when you take a sip of your
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drink or when they take a sip of theirs
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when someone is telling you a story
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passionately and you have that little
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man you ever have that moment where
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someone gets really passionate about
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something and you see that their eyes
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light up you see that glint in them and
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all of a sudden you get that little hit
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of oh this person’s attractive in that
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moment slow down look at them a little
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more slowly you can even look from their
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eyes to their mouth and back to their
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eyes these things start to create that
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element of Seduction if you’re
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constantly making points and moving
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around a lot and gesturing a lot and in
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that kind of jittery mode and everything
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you say is really fast sentences and so
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on there’s no seduction to that pace
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slow it down did you slow it down test
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number three did you give him a desire
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based compliment there’s platonic
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language and there’s desire language
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there’s also a platonic tone and a
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desire to own you can use either a
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platonic language would be that looks
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nice
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desire language would be that looks hot
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platonic tone would be you look good in
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that jacket
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desire tone would be you look good in
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that jacket subtle differences but one
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of them says
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we’re going to be friends and the other
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one says
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We’re Not Gonna Be Friends number four
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did you hug them like you liked them
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there’s a big difference in hugging
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someone as if they’re a friend and the
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way we hug someone when we feel
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comfortable with them and we like them
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we let it linger for just a half second
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longer we almost become a bit more
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vulnerable you ever hugged someone where
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it felt like just for a brief moment
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they were sort of melting into you
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didn’t it feel amazing didn’t it make
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you feel connected to that person didn’t
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it make you feel more comfortable with
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that person didn’t it creates the moment
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of electricity are you creating that
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with other people or are you leaning
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over giving them your shoulder and the
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rest of your body Retreats and it feels
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like they’re hugging a coat hanger allow
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that hug to be a little more vulnerable
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and to last just a little longer than
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you would if you were trying to get away
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number five did you give them a couple
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of opportunities to just observe you
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know that moment moment where someone
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leaves the date or leaves the table and
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goes to the bathroom and it’s the one
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moment you’ve had
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to just watch them you catch a different
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angle than you’ve had so far you can
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look at them without worrying that
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they’re looking back at you looking at
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them and you can just take them in this
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is a moment where you get to Showcase
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yourself walking a little sexy having a
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lot of strut having a nice little moment
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with your hair looking at the menu
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you’re up deep in the menu so they can
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look at you or going to the restroom or
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just being over here checking something
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out which allows them to check you out
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people need moments where they can take
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you in without feeling like you’re
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watching them number six did you tease
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them in a playful manner playfully
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teasing someone could be that you think
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your order was better than his and then
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you look at that person and you go
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I won I have the best order or it might
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be that they say that your food doesn’t
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look as good as theirs and you can go
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ugh rude got like a little flirtatious
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vibe to it tension is often born out of
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a playful friction right playful
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friction allows you both to step into a
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role play where you’re having a little a
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little thing your odds over something
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and that creates a spark it could be
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that there’s a pool table over there and
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you go we can’t play Paul I can’t have
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us fighting on our first date that
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creates this little like mini this mini
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competition like oh it’s not it’s not so
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friendly anymore there’s a free song to
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it number seven did you make use of the
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post date sexy subtle subtext text if
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you just send someone a message that
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says I had a really nice time tonight I
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hope you didn’t have to wait too long
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for your Uber there’s a nice text but
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it’s so literal there’s no subtext
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whatsoever but what if you just said
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this
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tonight was really fun
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dot dot dot
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and then maybe you throw in a little
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blushing Emoji firstly it’s not many
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words I kind of like it for that reason
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I’m not saying you have to send few
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words but something about this message
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really works because it’s few words it’s
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not overly thought out the Ellipsis
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is what says there’s things I’m not
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saying right now and the word fun that’s
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desire language that says we could have
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more fun together the Emoji is both a
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signal of warmth at the end of this
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message but there’s also a little
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suggestiveness to that too right that’s
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the ability to blush it’s the ability to
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be made to feel something there’s a
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vulnerability about that it’s like
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you’re thinking about how fun the night
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was and maybe you’re even thinking about
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other things and you’re blushing as a
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result this is a message that
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immediately when someone receives it
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after a date they say oh
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there’s something there this person is
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attracted to me this person didn’t just
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have a nice time and the great irony is
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that when we feel someone is slightly
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attracted to us even if it’s just in
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what they don’t say not even what they
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do say we’re more likely to be attracted
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to them because we take our mind out of
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the friend zone and into the desire zone
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now I know what you’re thinking
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fine I’ll do those seven things then
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what will I have the answer for you I
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have a program it’s called the momentum
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texts in this program are 67 specific
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text messages that you can use to take
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it from a very early stage all the way
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to some serious investment so that your
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dating life doesn’t keeps drifting into
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a state of limbo it actually goes
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somewhere with someone I don’t think
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we’ve ever released a more nuts and
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bolts practical program of things that
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you can literally just grab and send
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it’s really good it took us ages to make
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it’ll take you seconds to use whatever
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you how much were we offering this for
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before Jameson seven dollars seven we
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adjusted the price didn’t we
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no seven dollars what about inflation
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surely it should be about a thousand
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dollars by now
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have you seen gas
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we’re sticking to seven you can’t even
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get a pumpkin spice latte for that I
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couldn’t even get a pumpkin spice latte
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for that that’s mental check it out I’ll
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see you over there momentum texts.com
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Jameson just photoshopped that in
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somehow do that you could probably do
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that in After Effects can’t you
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yeah otherwise it just looks like a hump
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in the air

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