Question: Hey Allana. My question is a little off topic but wanted your advice. Overheard a coworker mentioning to someone else that she was pregnant but didn’t want to tell anyone because she was up for a promotion. While I understand where she is coming from, I still think it is messed up because she will screw over the entire team when she wants to take maternity leave. Should I say something to someone?
Answer: Great to hear from you, and the core of what we’re talking about here is not off topic so thank you for asking 😉 Conscious relationships be they personal or professional operate on the same core foundations. Love. Truth. Good for All. Courageous Humility. Trust in the Divine. Yes?
I have compassion for the pregnant women, who if she’s white earns 70% of what a man does… add a baby to the picture and I get why she’d want to keep it a secret.
And I have compassion for you, not wanting your team to be compromised by her absence for 3 months, yes? You want to reach your goals, you work hard, you don’t want a foreseen or unforeseen circumstance to take you off your mark, yes?
Here’s where you might find some relief… notice your point of view is on the .01% of the issue of what you see… yet quantum physics teaches us that 99.9% of possibilities is in the unseen.. so you’re concluding that because she’s pregnant and taking mat leave that something awful will happen… what if it’s actually a blessing?
What if you get to shine? Or a coworker? Or something miraculous occurs where you rock your game while also appreciating her when she returns… what if everyone evolves and the community thrives? What if you trusted you were held, supported, safe and secure no matter WHAT your circumstances, and followed the energy of what’s expansive to guide you, rather than your fears and potentially throwing a coworker under the bus?
What if she could still contribute from home? What if she gets a promotion but so do you? There are so many ‘what if’s!” yes?
When we come from fear, contraction, scarcity… our life goes to pot… yet if we can courageously come from expansion, love, abundance, possibility, courage and What if… then nothing short of miracles can unfold. This isn’t woo woo my friend, it’s science. It takes a knowing in your gut, not a thought in your mind. It takes conscious evolution. And I absolutely know you can do it.
And the road to ease, flow, abundance, trust and deep security within didn’t come easy to me, and might not come easy to you, so to help on that journey, go to my site for men, www.GetHerToSayYes.com for my complementary report on how to be a Noble Badass. If you’re a lady reading this, please enjoy my complementary training at www.AllanaPratt.com called Vulnerability is the New Sexy. And if you’d like someone to walk you through this fire to freedom on the other side, apply for a complementary strategy session with me at www.AllanaPratt.com/connect.
Challenge when embraced makes us stronger, better than before, more alive, humbled, courageous and expressed. Lean in my friend. xoxo Allana
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