Men Should Take Son’s on Dates

By Beleaf in Fatherhood

Transcript provided by YouTube. Slightly edited with AI.

I found out my son has a crush on someone. Do you know what we’re about to do? What we need to prepare you for is learning how to take women on dates. Huh? You’re going to want to do this, so I figured we start practicing now. Your pop quiz: Who pays on a date? Or, man, when I wanted to marry Mom, I had to buy a wedding ring. I had to buy an engagement ring to say, “Here, I’m willing to invest in this, in order to pay this.” This was something that I gave your mom as a token of my love, and that I can provide this nice thing for her. But also, there’s nothing I won’t do to pay our bills, to pay our rent, to make sure that we have a house over our head. It’s like a promise. You don’t have to worry about this meal, and you also don’t have to worry about a lot of things when you’re dealing with me.

When I found out my son had a crush on someone, I knew I had to take him out on a date. It was like super important. Today, we’re going to learn how to treat a lady. You’re going to take me on a date, and I’m going to show you the ins and outs of what it means to have game and how to be polite when hanging out with ladies. Let’s go.

First things first, when we got to Chili’s, which is an appropriate place to take someone for a date because it has a nice ambiance and great food, we get to Chili’s, and I tell my son how to open up the door, how to pull out the chair, and how to have really good eye contact and conversation. And you guys have to figure out what you’re going to say to your date. What type of things are you going to talk about to get to know them? Just ask me.

One of my biggest fears for the younger generation is that they won’t have enough opportunity to have real conversations with the people in their community because social media is a new phenomenon that is kind of taking over everything. And we do a lot of life online. So one of the important things I wanted to do today was teach you how to have conversations effectively, the snowball effect, how to ask a question on top of a question on top of a question. And it was really cute how we had this conversation, and he definitely blushed a lot. But I showed him how to be interested in people, which is a skill that people need to know. You need to know how to be interested.

Can I show you how to do it now? If you’re like this while I’m talking, it’s bad body language. You want to be the ruler of the house, right? Our body is our home. It’s our temple. This is our house. We’re going to activate our house. Look at my posture, alright? On top of having good conversation, you also want to give off really good energy. That is all about body language. Standing up straight, not being slouched over and disinterested in the conversation. You want to appear, for sure, that you’re interested in getting to know this person. So your posture is very important, how you carry yourself. It’s just something, it’s like an art. I wouldn’t call it this, but they call it game. Yeah, nowadays they call it game. Dad, is that what you call it? No, because I’m old.

But being able to communicate well and appear interested is not just good in dating, it’s good in networking and just feeling like you belong in a room and that you are treasured to be around.

While taking my son on a date, I got to show him how to treat the staff of the place that he’s patronizing. Even when he messed up, I don’t try to embarrass him about it. I just correct the behavior and say, “Hey, this is what happened, but this is what should have happened.” And my son is so great because he not only sat there and listened, he took notes. This dude was really interested in what I had to say.

Quick question, though. There’s definitely more to this story, but I want to know what are some things that you’re teaching your child or the young people in your life so that they grow up having good communication skills and knowing how to treat women and the people in their lives?

The most important thing, the most important thing, because this could make you lose the girl, is sloppy eating, man. A girl will watch you eat and be like, “I’m never coming back here again.” In her mind, one thing about your dad is that he loves to get down on great food. He’s just like his dad. Okay, now in this situation, you don’t want to present yourself as someone who is starving to death and needing to eat everything you see, right? You definitely want to be someone who has self-control and cares about what’s happening on their face, what’s spilling all over their body. You don’t want to be the guy that’s walking out with a big old cheese stain right on your shirt. You know what I’m saying? So, this was an opportunity for me to just say, “Hey, man, this is something I’d like to see you work on,” because this is an area of growth. First of all, one napkin goes on your lap. So, what you do is you unfold the napkin, you put the napkin on your lap, so nothing gets on your pants. And then, every time you take a bite, when it falls, nope, you wipe both sides of your mouth. But can’t you just grab on the table? You can. That’s something else you can do. But if you put it on the table, then everything you wiped on your mouth is on display. So, you got sauces and cheese all over this, and she’s looking at caked-up sausage and cheese on a white, you know what I’m saying, that laid under the table. Okay, don’t let nobody see that.

Sometimes, teachable moments aren’t always teachable. They don’t learn anything. So, here we have, you’re like, “Man, I want to eat more. There’s an opportunity for dessert.” You know, I heard someone recently say, Kevin on stage recently say, “You know, why do black people always have to have something sweet after a meal?” You know what I’m saying? Like, it’s just a thing we do. And I’m trying to get you right to see, even though you can have something sweet, it’s not always necessary. You want dessert right now?

Yeah.

See, right now, I just watched you eat that full burger. Before we left, you had chicken nuggets. So, I know for a fact you’re not actually hungry.

No, you can fill your stomach up to the point where you feel full, but you’re not hungry.

But I want a dessert.

Yeah, yeah, I understand that. Now, these teachable moments are opportunities to teach, but that doesn’t mean something is learned. This is an L for me. This dude really wanted some dessert. I didn’t let him get dessert, but he was asking about it, asking about it, and this is the thing that we’re going to

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