Social justice warriors are constantly trying to erode our sense of manliness and reduce us to quivering piles of emotional pudding. The PC squad want us to stop disrespecting women and treat them as our equals.
Spoiler alert! If you’re shaking your head agreeing with me right now, I want you to know that you’re the type of man who needs to consider changing your ways. I’m sorry you had to find out this way and I know the truth hurts sometimes. Lucky for you, I have five simple steps you can follow to rid yourself of the stench of the unworthy. Follow along, now.
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Drop the macho bullshit.
For realsies, please just stop. You’re not impressing anyone by puffing out your chest. Do you really want to look like the guy who can’t control themselves? It’s off-putting and you won’t make a lot of friends this way. I know from personal experience.
The solution: Drop the male posturing BS. The days of the hunter-gatherer are in the far-flung past. Let’s act like we live in the 21st century and we’ve learned how to be civil with one another despite our differences. You don’t have to like everyone, but you should show them a modicum of respect. If they don’t share the same respect back, you simply keep on moving.
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Grow up.
You’re not a 13-year old on the playground anymore. You don’t have to react to the stupid insults that may get flung your way. You don’t have to give in to the territorial pissing that happens.
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Open your mind.
The world is a much larger place than you imagine. There are all sorts of geeks and freaks out there that would blow your mind. When you refuse to acknowledge these experiences simply because you’re afraid, then you’re missing out on a large chunk of life. As a friend of mine says, I have a dope life and I do dope things. Possibly one of the best life mantras I’ve ever heard.
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Follow your own path.
Don’t let society define you. We’re bombarded on a daily basis by a digital tsunami that’s piped into our smartphones and LED screens, telling us how we should dress, eat, and think. Here’s something you may want to consider: it’s all white noise to distract you from the fact that a good chunk of your life is going to be spent in a cubicle under halogen lights, growing wrinkled and old, finding out in your last days before retirement that the 401K you put all your money into is worthless because all the investors sold you down the river. I know, that’s sad and depressing. My advice is don’t be like that. Do what makes you happy.
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Be your own man.
Peer pressure doesn’t end when you get out of school. People are still jerks in the real world. They’ll push you to follow along with their way of doings things. I’m going to need you to learn to do your own thing, independent of the crowd. When you walk into a room, you should own it. The way people look at you will change when you embrace this level of confidence.
I can’t promise that following these steps will instantly change your life, but I can promise that it’s a step in the right direction. You will find that you don’t have to posture for the world to recognize and respect you for who you are. You can simply be a good man and people will notice.
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Oddly enough when I do things along the lines of what you list here, SJWs are much more likely to get upset than the people you think would agree with your first paragraph. When dealing with SJWs at the end of the day they are just as bad if not worse than the caricature of men they claim to fight against.
I appreciate what you are trying to do and say (I’d even say your heart is in the right place) but you seem to be perpetuating the very things you claim to be against.
I might not have been clear in my writing that I was trying to show that both those that hold the mentality that men are now being discriminated against and those that get upset at every offense or SJWs are both two extremes to be avoided. I do apologize for the lack of clarity there. I agree with what you’re saying here. Going to either extreme is the last thing any of us need to do because that isn’t productive at all. The idealism of the extreme on either side of the conversation typically won’t come to a happy compromise.… Read more »
I agree with what you’re saying here. Going to either extreme is the last thing any of us need to do because that isn’t productive at all. The idealism of the extreme on either side of the conversation typically won’t come to a happy compromise.
Agreed. Each man must have the latitude to be his own man in his own way.
I’d like to bring up one more thing about macho. Where do you put wearing martial arts clothing? Nothing says I could whip your butt like wearing martial arts gear. I’d don’t need to be aggressive or speak with a loud voice or puff out my chest.
Does it matter why they wear it? Some guys will wear it because they want to intimidate or brag. Others because they’re proud of their dojang. Others still because it matches the weather and it’s an article of clothing. Other guys completely shy away from it because they think ut invites trouble.
I don’t really think a certain type of clothing defines you as being macho necessarily. If you want to wear a karate gi and go get groceries, more power to you. I live in Phoenix, so I see people wear crazy stuff out in public all the time. I guess it would all depend on where you live and local culture and, most importantly, your intention for wearing it.
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Why would you assume that hunter-gatherers play the ridiculous macho game? In fact studies show that such peoples are much less violent than supposedly civilized people. Check your facts.
I didn’t cite facts, my friend. I stated my opinion based on my observation of the world. You can take it or leave it as it’s free to all.
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I like your fire, Joseph. Liked it with the first article that I read. You’re riding what Bly called, the white horse (of innate justices). We have to be careful here though, because we are doing as you initially stated; drawing the either or line from macho to pudding. I’m going to hit that very subject this week: judging the archetypes and the attempted dismantling of masculinity under the assumption that it is a destructive force. Those men we speak of are not masculine, but men devoid of actual masculinity (like a bunch of frat boys that never grew up),… Read more »
DJ, I absolutely agree that we have to be careful in drawing a new line. What good would a movement to change to face of what modern society considers masculine be if we simply repeated the same mistakes, after all? What I really wanted to get across, even to people that may disagree with me, is that masculinity isn’t something that is locked in, immovable by time. I believe we can change that definition and we should, because as it stands now you’re exactly right. It’s a destructive force that is eating humanity alive. I very much look forward to… Read more »
I see now that you are a veteran and a fighter as well. Me too, and that helps me to see your overall point even clearer then before. Without trying to sound self-aggrandizing, we are the example that needs to be set, that one can be both soft and hard (the basic tenets of my karate study), but without the macho or douche-baggery (as you’ve described it). Humility, authenticity above all else. It is why I’m not sure whether to laugh or cry when I see men posturing. They have no idea, and that posturing is the tell-tale sign. It… Read more »
You’re really saying that we shouldn’t sweat the small stiff, but people who invented micro aggression really know what they’re talking about. SJWs as you call them are the most likely people to take a perc4eived minor offense and try to make it a capital offense. That deserves a LMAO for absurdity.
That’s not really what I was saying at all, John. I was trying to get across the point that we need to fundamentally change the way we look at manhood and walk away from the dated, stereotypical mindset that society tries to force on us. And yes, I agree that a certain segment of people who are interested in our society progressing to a more civilized age, or”social justice warriors,” (a term I was using satirically) do get bent out of shape over some things. However, equality in all things for all people, trying to save our planet from complete… Read more »
“So, I’d suggest you thank those kind of people for helping ensure your rights aren’t slowly eroded.” I’ve rarely worried about my rights being eroded because I’ve always fought for them. These people who you talk about don’t ensure my rights are eroded. Far from it. They want to repeal the second amendment. Now, I’m not a gun proponent, but I am a rights proponent so I support the second amendment. They want to curb free speech unless it’s speech that they approve. They’re for abortion rights except for men. You can go down the line. One of the things… Read more »
Well, I’m glad you got that out of your system. Thanks for the comments!
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Hi, Tom. If you’re saying I’m 0 for 3 on my talking points, I invite you to reread the article as there are 5 points made. Either way, thanks very much for reading my article and ensuring I have increased traffic. You’re a doll!
Sadly until women’s tastes in men change, that macho BS is here to stay. Simply because it works…..
And that’s the kind of thinking that won’t change anything sadly. I appreciate you reading and the comment!
No, it’s a statement that unless women change along with us, there is no real hope for lasting change. This is a tightly interconnected, feedback loop…. if the men that change out of the macho display mode are not accepted by women as real and desirable men….this movement fails miserably. Women also have a responsibility in the outcome of this endeavor…….time to fish or cut bait.
I respectfully disagree. Why should a man wait for women to change in order to pursue a more balanced and equal outlook and demeanor? Why should a woman have to change? You’re looking at the issue like it’s a cause and effect thing (if she does this, I will do this) when you should be looking at it from a personal perspective, asking yourself if this is the best you that you can be. Trust me when I say all that macho BS goes out the window when a man with real strength and confidence enters the room. You don’t… Read more »
For cultural change it takes both men and women, If all you are looking for is a few individuals to modify behavior….say so. Thought you were looking for something bigger, I guess that concept is beyond comprehension. Sorry for wasting both of our time.
First, you’re being condescending, rude, and abrasive. If you want to continue a meaningful conversation on here, I’m happy to do so. If you just want to be a dick, GFY. Second, no, cultural change doesn’t have to happen equally and at the same time. You’re dealing in absolutes and that’s not the way the world works. For cultural change,it takes one person to decide to change and then to invite others to join in. In fact, I’m pretty sure that’s the whole goal of GMP. Trying to blame our ineffectiveness or willingness to change on women is a really… Read more »
in your own words “You’re not a 13-year old on the playground anymore. You don’t have to react to the stupid insults that may get flung your way. You don’t have to give in to the territorial pissing that happens.” Saying that in a tightly interconnected social feedback loop….that the way to achieve lasting change is for men and women to move together ain’t rocket science…..claiming that a few guys opting out will is ….. to be nice, a very specious claim. And as per the photo posted by you……just Wow…can you get a pix more in opposition to your… Read more »
“Be your own man as long as it fits into the box the progressives are boxing you into. Be your own man doesn’t allow for his being the macho type.
I’m guessing you’re calling me a progressive (like it’s a dirty word) because I hold on to an enlightened mindset. I’m about as macho as it gets, being a veteran of two wars, an avid boxer, and I love to get dirty outside being active. That does not, however, mean I have to be an extravagant douchebag and act like I’m 13 anymore. I’m a grown ass man and I act like it.
I presume you are a conservative, which explains the counting skills in your other post.
Anyone seen the latest Maaco commercial? Stupid man who is painting his car with a paint roller has his all knowing wife/gf telling him to stop and get it done professionally. LOL, an arena where men are generally well versed (car maintenance) are now being depicted as stupid …. never stops, does it?
My girlfriend can build a VW bus from the frame up with no help from any man. Can you?
…. Do you really think that was his point?
I don’t really care. He’s being contrarian and not really putting out any constructive criticism. Responding in a serious manner is a waste of time. Responding in the way I did makes me smile. 🙂
Me thinks, This is part of that macho BS you were decrying…….Sounding more and more like Hugo.
It seems like you’re all confusing your definitions and I invite you to reconsider that. No, I’m not being “macho,” but that doesn’t make me a pushover that will simply take abuse from people because they feel they are absolutely right and I am wrong. I will stand up for myself, as everyone should. Did you expect me to turn into a mewling waif and cry in the corner? Nope, not happening. Look, if you guys want to fight with people, they have 4Chan and Reddit for that. I’m not even going to entertain talking to anyone who doesn’t show… Read more »
Definitely A Hugo…….Sadly, I had hope that you were capable of being Balanced. Have a nice life
That has nothing to do with Tom’s point about the way men are depicted in advertising.
Its great that your girlfriend can build a VW bus from the frame up with no help from a man. But how exactly does that address Tom’s point that men are needlessly portrayed as incompetent when painting a car?
Your opening paragraph is nothing but straw. It sort of undermines the rest of your point.
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