People persecute joy out of life. How many people are busy and sad? How many are miserable while seeking the good life? Part of the problem is daily conversations that oppress joy.
When life is miserable, words have something to do with it.
Two conversations:
Be concerned about inward-facing and outward-facing conversations.
If you kick a dog long enough it gives up. Does your inner dialogue return joy or harm? Are you encouraging yourself or punching yourself in the gut?
The person who loves life says life-giving things. Do your conversations with team members invite them to like spending time with you?
Stop harming people with your words.
Joy and boomerangs:
Conversations have consequences.
Words return like boomerangs. Invite vibrancy into life, not death. Solomon put it this way, “The words of a wise person win him favor, but the words of a fool are self-destructive.”
You can’t thrive and kill vitality at the same time. There’s no vigor when you speak misery into yourself and others.
Coneheads:
Coneheads is a movie masterpiece. Two aliens (Beldar and Prymaat played by Dan Aykroyd and Jane Curtin) are stranded on Earth. They integrate and have a child (Connie).
At one point Beldar is arguing with his Connie. Finally, he says, “Maintain low tones.”
Eliminate harshness if you want more joy.
One rule:
There is only one rule for leadership conversations. “Only open your mouth to make something better.” For example, shift from defeat to opportunity by asking, “What are you learning?”
Today’s challenge: Notice how people feel after listening to you talk. Notice how you feel after talking to yourself.
What are some life-giving words leaders can speak today?
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Previously Published on leadershipfreak with Creative Commons License
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