What does it mean to be free? It has taken me close to 46 years to figure it out. Freedom should be simple but yet I have been in my own inner prison all these years. Now there have been many times throughout my life that I have felt this type of freedom and at the same time it wouldn’t last like I wanted it to. Why? Well growing up I thought freedom was the American Dream like many of us are taught. Family, Successful Career, Nice House, etc. When that was not working for me, the outside stuff, I learned how to go inside my own soul and define what freedom is for me.
Freedom is living in the present, having a connection with God and being my True-Self- ME.
Writing this book has helped me come up with a simple definition of what freedom looks like to me. Here are some examples of what freedom looked like when I was younger to my adult life.
When I was child I loved playing sports in the front yard, mostly alone. I would throw the baseball in the air and make diving catches, throw the football and score the game winning touchdown, etc. There were no worries, I wasn’t thinking any negative thougths of worry or anxiety. Now from the outside one may think oh that is a little boy playing in the front yard, how cute. The reality is back then I was defining what freedom looked like for me: I was living in the present, I truly was not alone, God was playing with this little boy and most importantly I was being ME- My True Self – a young child just being himself doing what he loves- Being Free.
Now growing up as a young man from 15-24 I was able to experience a little of that freedom from my physical fitness routine. Yes, working out alone lifting weights, boxing hitting the body bag I felt that same feeling I did when I was a little boy for only a short time. Again like in the front yard- I was experiencing living in the present, connecting with God (though during this time period I didn’t know it) and most importantly I was being my True-Self Me.
Then at the age of 29 when I was married, a father, had a successful business something was missing. It was my Freedom. I started to ask questions like Who am I? What is my purpose here? This was the time I started working on the inside me. This was when the concept of Spiritual Fitness was created. It would take time. The outside world for me was a struggle over the last 17 years because I was missing being my True-Self. However, I’m very grateful for all the good times and all the pain and suffering as well. It has been through this inner work- yes its work that I realized I was the creator of all this and how powerful we all are. Then when my outside world was starting to collapse with the end of a 17 year marriage and another startup-venture going by the waste side, I was determined once and for all that I would create a life of freedom for myself.
There are many people to thank on this journey, everyone played a role. Humbly I thank God for always being with me, not giving up on me and preparing me for the path ahead- Living a life of being in the present, connection with my Creator and being my True-Self- ME.
How would you define freedom? Your freedom?
This article originally appeared on Chris Forte’s Blog
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