This week on Instagram, I saw a video where actress Paulina Porizkov said that most men don’t want to date a woman in her 50s or 60s.
Her comments really hit my heart. Recently, I’ve been feeling very connected to the Jillian who is in her 40s and 50s. I think about how, if she is single, most of my male friends of the same age wouldn’t date her. (Context for people who are reading this and don’t know me — I’m in my twenties.)
I shared this in my Instagram stories, along with this commentary:
“To every man reading this, if you’ve never dated a woman your own age, why? If you almost always date younger women, why?
Because here’s my knowing (trigger alert):
Whether you recognize it or not, older men usually date younger women because they have fewer boundaries and expectations. They’re easier to control. And you as a man cannot handle the power of a woman your age.
This is something I have been talking about and reflecting on a lot, but never posted on social media because I want everyone to like me. And this is something that men probably don’t want to hear. But I’m working on being ok with people not liking me so… I said what I said.”
What happened next absolutely blew my mind. I’ve never received so many DMs from people.
Almost 100 women said that they would join for a conversation on this topic.
Clearly, this discussion stirred people’s emotions. You can see it in my stories highlights here. I include (with permission) tons of messages that people sent me.
This morning I was doing a guided meditation, and the voice asked: “What gift do you want to give people?” I thought about it and started to cry. Because this week, I want to give women the gift of knowing that they’re lovable, desirable, and worthy at any age — regardless of the feedback that they’re given. I want women to feel that in their soul.
I was so inspired I even decided to make my first Youtube video. You can watch it below, and leave a kind comment to continue the conversation!
To learn more about me, you can visit my website here: www.thatjillian.com
You can also leave a donation to thank me for my work here.
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Because women date up. They all go for guys older than them. So I can’t go for chicks my age, because I’m too young for them. This is isn’t our choice. I would much rather have a gf that I shared certain occuurances..