Question: Allana I still can’t figure out why women pretend to like you, but then have nothing to do with you.
Answer: Hmmm… no question, love? Just venting? Or would you like my insights into why… and my advice on how to change that? I get asking for help can seem like you’re weak, wobbly, broken or vulnerable… yet remember your worth is your worth… period. End of story. No one gets to decide your worth but YOU. No achievements or accomplishments change your inherent worth, it just changes what you achieve or accomplish.
Thus asking for help is actually wise, strong, forward thinking, honoring and respectful of yourself. Opening up to receive allows you to have so much more! AND when you know your worth, you can receive BOTH support AND challenges in stride because you no longer see challenges as bad or proof of your unworthiness… you see them as FOR your growth, evolution, expansion and awesomeness!
Yes, this is easier said than done. Our hearts have many times been wounded, so we’re looking at experiences through the lens of self judgment, shame, guilt or hopelessness. Thus it’s harder to see the gift in challenges.
Nonetheless, there still is a gift for you! Step 1 would be to heal your heart and have solid self worth so you LIVE the point of view that the world has your back and is for you, not against you. This is a life changer right there.
Step 2 would be to lean in, get curious, ask empowering questions, discover who you are being, or who you are NOT being that would not make it safe or easy for women to tell you the truth. It’s a hard pill to swallow sometimes, yet we project our thoughts and beliefs onto the world… we create our lives… whatever we believe to be true, we manifest. So if subconsciously you believe that women will reject you… if deep down you have a fear of being ghosted… if you’re afraid of how to BE once you actually GET on a date, get intimate, get real… then you’ll subconsciously sabotage your dating success by choosing women who will reject right out of the gate… a form of protecting you from being rejected later when it would potentially hurt more. Make sense?
Most women aren’t man haters out to get you… so I don’t think women are doing this intentionally to piss you off. So my sense is timid is meeting timid… your inner concerns are meeting women who aren’t brave enough to say thank you for the offer yet they aren’t interested. Potentially your inner fears are mirrored outwardly connecting with women who are afraid to hurt your feelings. Fear meets fear. Maybe?
Step 3 would be a commitment to heal your inner fears, concerns and past heart wounds so that you can BE certain, authentic, grounded, confident and uniquely YOU in the world… so that you give off an energy of noble badass unwavering presence… while maintaining your unique sense of humor, values, adorable quirks and genuineness… and WATCH how you attract a whole different kind of woman. My clients that go through my Noble Badass Journey 3 month program meet their ideal matches… because they have become their Best Selves.
The inner always creates the outer.
Yes this journey with me take courage, bravery and humility… yet know I only know how to teach you this because I was extremely insecure, a total people pleaser, had unhealthy boundaries, felt wobbly being authentic. Now I am amazingly supported by a noble badass who sees me, who’s 2 steps ahead making me feel safe and seen, knows who he is so I can be the wind in his wings AND who does his inner work daily as I do… as we do together in weekly communication Dyads. I talk my talk great man. You will be welcomed with non judgment and loved unconditionally… and most importantly you will stop having women pretend to like you then disappear… you will meet your ideal match, feel confident in being yourself, receive her love, touch, care and warmth… and be SO grateful you took this journey Home To YOU.
I recommend you make a decision right now to change this. Then register for a $97 discounted call with me in person to ensure me and my program are the perfect fit to heal any past wounds and step into your best self. Go to www.AllanaPratt.com/connect and register now as I’m often booked weeks in advance.
I’m here for you. This CAN change. She IS out there. First let’s get YOU even more solid inside so when you meet her she stays… and your intimacy grows and the love deepens.
Huge love, Allana xoxo