Once a girl marries the wrong person, she will suffer a lifetime of pain and suffering. Although divorce is possible, divorce also comes with a lot of costs.
So, why not be more careful when choosing a mate to avoid marrying the wrong person?
Most of the following three types of men have bad character. No matter how deeply you love him, you should choose to leave and stop losses in time.
01 Extremely selfish man
There is no shame in profit, but if a person only pays attention to his own interests and never cares about the happiness or pain of others, it is terrible and you must not marry him.
“Everyone is good to himself, but if he is only good for himself and does not consider others at all, this is called selfishness.”
For extremely selfish men, selfishness is their nature. They can’t see others in their eyes, they only think about themselves.
If you marry a selfish man, don’t expect him to share the burden and give. He will spend as much of his time, energy, and money on himself as possible.
When his wife asks him for money, he acts very stingy; when his wife buys something, he thinks she is buying things randomly; when his wife is sick, he ignores her; when his wife asks him to take care of the children, he excuses himself to work overtime.
He is like a leech, gradually sucking up all the essence and blood from his wife.
There is no such thing as being in the same boat and thinking from someone else’s perspective. His wife is very kind to him, but if she doesn’t like her once, he will immediately turn against her.
Marriage with such a man is a disaster.
02 Emotional black hole man
What is an “emotional black hole man”?
To put it simply, this man’s emotions are extremely unstable like a black hole. You don’t know when he will lose control and what will happen.
Once it breaks out, there are two extremes.
Either it is extremely indifferent, does not respond, does not communicate, does not answer the phone, just disappears, and is a complete cold violence;
Either he is extremely irritable, engages in domestic violence, breaks things, is hysterical, gets angry at every turn, and explodes like a firecracker.
They have no ability to fill the emotional black hole, nor can they deal with negative emotions. They can only transfer negative energy to their significant other.
If you stay with such a person for a long time, one day you will be swallowed up by negative energy and become a trash can for negative emotions.
The whole person will become anxious and nervous because you have to take care of his emotions all the time, but you don’t know where his emotional threshold is, so you can only carefully test and please.
Not only will you not get any emotional value from him, but he will continue to consume you and make you frustrated and internally consumed.
In an intimate relationship, if only one party is accommodating in every possible way and only one party is trying to provide emotional value, it is destined to not go far.
Even if they reluctantly have children together, it is difficult to achieve long-term happiness.
After all, having such a husband/father will be like a black hole, swallowing up all the life force. Neither his wife nor his children were spared.
03 Extreme mommy boy
It may be a virtue to listen to your mother when you are a child; but when you grow up, it is probably unwise to blindly obey and rely on your mother.
No matter how good the man is and how handsome he is, girls should not choose a mama’s boy as their marriage partner. Because mommy’s boy has too many shortcomings.
First, mama’s boy lacks the necessary qualities to be a good husband. For example, independence, responsibility, and sense of responsibility… He has none of these.
To put it bluntly, a mama’s boy is just a giant baby who has not been weaned. When you marry a mama’s boy, you must be prepared to be his mother.
Second, marrying a mama’s boy means a difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Behind every mama’s boy, there must be a very controlling mother. In their eyes, every woman who approaches their son has evil intentions.
Therefore, they will naturally reject and be hostile to their daughter-in-law, and they will definitely criticize their son’s small family.
That’s not the worst thing. What’s even worse is the mama’s boy’s attitude.
Over the years, they have become accustomed to listening to their mother’s opinions. When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law disagree or have conflicts, the mother-in-law will definitely stand on her mother’s side without any principle.
Marrying a mama’s boy will only bring you endless grievances and endless tears.
Still the same sentence: “Cherish life and stay away from mama’s boys.”
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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