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Deep issues from our past have recently resurfaced for inspection within many of us, all the while simultaneously feeling like we’ve just been randomly catapulted at extreme rapid speed into the dawning of a new major chapter in our lives. For many this transition point feels uneasy. The rational mind is discombobulated and confused, leaving many people feeling like they’re stuck between worlds, lost, without a map or even a clue on how to go about processing the next steps they could take in their lives.
In my own life, I had what I believed was a clear-cut path before me that I worked hard to create for myself. That was, until the second week of August.
As always, I maintain minimal expectations with everything I do, and this time was no different, I was taking everything step by step. No rush. I had my tasks at hand and I’d nail them one by one….but after these two eclipses, I feel more lost than ever before. Now suddenly these tasks feel meaningless. It’s like everything I’ve worked so hard to build these last two years mean jack-squat. As the entrepreneur type, it sure feels like the “twilight zone” variety of strange.
Here’s the thing…I’m cool with being lost.
Feeling lost in life no longer worries me after the wild roller coaster ride I, and a good majority of us, have been on the last five years, or since 2012. But what is slightly concerning to me is how I’ve seemingly lost all of my drive, too.
Suddenly, I really could give a rats ass about the things I poured my heart and soul energy into. I mean these were things I REALLY cared about. I dedicated my life to them and now I just don’t seem to care anymore at the drop of a hat.
I could still label what I’ve felt recently as depression.
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By describing how I’m feeling here, it all sounds so negative. Truth is, normally I would view this all as negative, as something needing to be fixed or changed, but that’s just it… it doesn’t feel negative to me at all and it’s THIS that is beginning to become concerning to me.
My intuition tells me it’s because we are no longer meant to comprehend the way we “feel” in same ways we’re used to comprehending them. Everything actually feels different now, well, because it is.
I feel I’m pretty on point with what’s happening in the collective right now, but boy oh boy does it feel strange. Like how my perception of how I feel about certain previously disturbing emotional occurrences in my life has dramatically changed.
For example, in the past, I’d perceive the way I feel now as negative since many aspects of how I’m feeling are eerily reminiscent of the ten-plus year period of my life spent in severe depression, and until recently I swore that phase was permanently over and done for good, after experiencing over five years of dormancy with these symptoms.
The pain we carry comes from within ourselves, not from anyone or anything externally.
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I could still label what I’ve felt recently as depression. However, the experience was completely different this time around. I no longer judge it, try to push it away, escape, change or fix it. I’ve learned on my journey that it’s not so much about escaping the darkness, but accepting our shadows and learning to become compassionate with ourselves when we mingle with them.
Through the practice of self-love and compassion you can begin to realize how we are never really confined by how we’re feeling. We can choose whether or not we will live our lives in a space of reliving painful past traumas over and over again, but we are never a victim and life does not control how you feel, YOU DO. You may not be able to control what emotions will arise and when they will, but it is your choice how you decide to handle your reaction to emotions.
The pain we carry comes from within ourselves, not from anyone or anything externally. We choose to carry the belief of how we are wounded, but it’s just another false story we tell ourselves so we can continue playing small.
The truth is…we are not victims.
We don’t suffer at the hands of others, we suffer by the beliefs we hold about ourselves. No one is coming to save you. You alone have the ability to grant yourself freedom from this self-imposed prison you’ve made, and through the power of self-forgiveness you can break the cycles of self-abuse and drop your fixed mindset, reopening yourself to the gifts that connecting with others can bring.
Be gentle as you say farewell to the many aspects of yourself you have been at war with a long time. Muster up the courage to endure this space temporarily meant to hold us in place while this major shift continues to unfold.
Whatever you cared about prior to this shift remains aligned. Offering true value and meaning to this new chapter will reignite itself on its own and stimulate your passions once again.
The next steps you need to take are coming, you will be shown the way, and the only thing to do for now is try your best to bring stillness to the clamoring fears of the mind. Stay calm. Be present and learn to be cool with not knowing what’s really happening or coming next.
The positives always outweigh the negatives when you come from a space of gratitude, and when you allow yourself to be driven by your passions, both your business and your personal life become one in the same.
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Believe me when I say, “I feel you.” Mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally, I’m fried. I’m beyond burnt and feel exhausted. I guess maybe I sleep, but honestly I’m not even sure what the definition of feeling “rested” means anymore.
So much of me has wanted to say “fuck it”, quit and leave everything behind these last few months. I’m talking about my business, SoulTrekker, Bali… I mean EVERYTHING.
But my heart, that truth-slangin’ bastard, has always known better and it knows I’m closer than ever to bridging the gap between the last two years of overcoming intense struggle and where I’m at now, completely turning over a new leaf, and waking into a new chapter with not only my business, but life in general.
The positives always outweigh the negatives when you come from a space of gratitude, and when you allow yourself to be driven by your passions, both your business and your personal life become one in the same.
A lot of us have taken great risks recently in choosing to follow our hearts, and rest assured, with great risks always comes great reward, but only if you remain open to what the definition of “reward” means.
Personally, I’ve got ZERO expectations about what’s coming next or how this next chapter even looks, but what I do know is that I feel I’m completely starting over yet again, and if that’s the way the cookie crumbles, so be it. I’ve already made my peace with it.
Honestly, we’ve got nothing left to lose and EVERYTHING left to gain. Make no mistake. That’s the raw truth.
Life’s storms have been weathered, we’ve endured them and survived. TRANSFORMATION IS REAL.
These storms have made you stronger and even if you don’t see how yet, they’ve changed you for the better. So release the life you once knew before and allow yourself to walk into this new chapter on a clean slate. Rock bottom became the foundation on which I rebuilt my life, and instead of dwelling on what you’ve lost, focus on rebuilding your new life on your terms and in YOUR WAY.
Come into full acceptance that you and ONLY YOU impose the limitations in regards to what you can do and where you can go. Only you can create the life you want, no one else can do this for you.
Allow yourself to open up to new opportunities. Opportunities that look differently than you thought they would on the path you believed you were going. Once true freedom is realized, the world becomes your personal playground, full of abounding, infinite possibilities and life can instantaneously and positively change.
There is nothing you need that is outside you.
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Another truth…Anxiously overthinking never solves anything.
The answers you’re seeking can only find themselves into a relaxed mind that believes everything always falls into place in due timing. There really is no need to worry. The reality you want so badly is already here, so for now focus on getting yourself together by repairing that which has been spoiled in your heart, mind, body and spirit.
Many of you have been caught up in a head full of daydreams, fantasies, and imagination for far too long. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that having a vision is not important, but having vision alone cannot get you to where you’d like to go. What gets you there all starts by creating a strong support system within yourself.
There is nothing you need that is outside you.
Trust that the Universe has already aligned to support you and the future you want so badly has already been written. The only thing you need to do now is remain open in how it continues to arrive and keep on meeting everything halfway.
So, if you feel stuck at these crossroads and filled by uncertainty and fear, KNOW YOU ARE SUPPORTED. Focus on supporting yourself and believe that the way forward will be shown to you.
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Wow I feel like this was written to me personally.
When did I write this article?
Another massive dose of truth bombing Jared! Awesomely said. Twenty thumbs up!!
Great article. Many thanks
Thanks for wisdom
Thank you for this! 💜