If you examine your path, the person you’ve been looking for might be there in front of you.
I have been involved with an incredible man for about three years now. We started off as best friends, with all the traditional best friend stuff. Not a day went by that we didn’t get in touch with each other, whether by phone, in person, or via email. We have chemistry. We have similar pasts of life and love. We can drive each other crazy on most occasions, but we always have resolution and forgiveness. We also have evolved on our own separate paths in ways that astound us both. We no longer punch a clock for work. We have grand ideas of how we see our lives and where we are within those big dreams. We used to have similar interests, but separate paths. Now, we have mutual interests and paths that are so incredibly parallel in our quest to helping people realize the goodness in their own lives.
We are spiritual partners. How do I know this? Besides my own amount of research and soul-searching on what a “spiritual partner” is all about, and actually sitting down to watch Oprah’s interview with Gary Zukav (“The Seat of the Soul”) discuss his soulful books and philosophy one Sunday morning, me and my man have lived the experience. We have gone through our years together of the archetypal relationship patterns. We don’t seem to fit the mold any more of what a marriage or relationship should be like. We have evolved beyond that into a more spiritually sound partnership.
It sort of took us both by surprise. When we discuss how, just last year, we were doing completely different types of work to earn a living, it’s uncanny that our paths have converged. His past is colored with leading and helping others be a better person in a large corporate setting. His present is the same, only in a more one-to-one format, and only being responsible for himself and not a corporate machine. My past is similar. I have been involved in helping others in a one-to-one format with oodles of years of personal training and nutrition consulting. Now, I simply write about it, with the hopes of touching more people in a wider scope on health and wellness. His and my paths are not traditional at this point. We have the same values. We don’t feel the need to get married. Sure, it is on the table, if necessary, but our spiritual growth both together and separate is the focus now. How we give back. How we live our lives with a purpose.
We finally woke up and defined this partnership that resonates with us daily. We started to pay attention to how we communicate with each other. We are still the best of friends, but we are more than that. Our love has transformed.
Pay attention to your mate. There is a fine line between having a relationship that is merely floating along with limited growth-producing communication, and a partnership that pushes every last fiber of your being to its edge, yet keeps the heart on fire. It’s a good thing. How else will you be a better form of yourself, if you don’t have that person showing you the best you can be? Not only are they on their personal path of goodness, but your spiritual partner will support your evolution in this lifetime.
I can attest to this, as over so many years of that whole “looking for love” crap that plagued me most of my adult life, my best friend was right under my nose the entire time. He was the loyal, witty, generous, protective, brave, and amazingly loving soul ready with open arms. He is a good man. He is solid. He is my spiritual partner. We are on this life path together, taking us places that only the Universe knows about, and possibly predestined.
If you pay attention to the important connections in your life, you might just discover that your spiritual partner has been there all along.
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