Legality is the only difference between sugar daddy parties and prostitution, Thomas Creedy writes.
Occasionally one’s blood boils. And the Internet makes one angry. And it tends to be about the idiocy of mankind. Sometimes, its just frustrating to be the sort of gullible person who clicks on news links.
In America, a Sugar Daddy is a piece of candy. But it’s also something much worse. It is a catch-all phrase for a “dating phenomenon” that is, frankly, plain wrong. Because the other meaning of “sugar daddy” is that of a wealthy older man who dates younger women, and sustains this relationship, often sexually-based, by showering them with gifts. Or cash.
It’s not exactly prostitution, but it kind of is.
I read about it in a BBC article that was directed to me by Hannah, a twitter contact who also contributes to my blog (disclaimer: I don’t endorse everything she writes, but she is a fantastic conversation starter!).
So there are these “organizations” coming to the UK, with parties being organized in London, where wealthy men can meet young women who want a little more than most can give them. While adults are obviously free to do what they like within the extent of the law, perhaps this is a little over the top. To say the least.
The BBC article included the following frustrating segment:
Alan Schneider, who’s a sugar daddy himself, believes the economic crisis in the US is one of the reasons parties like this are becoming more popular.
“Traditional relationships of men being the provider and women being the caretaker of the family are coming back now,” he says. “They’re coming back because of the economy.”
He denies there is anything sexist about that.
“I don’t think we’re taking a step backward with these parties,” he insists. “We’re taking a step forward.
“A lot of these women here tonight may be very wealthy but they want to feel like ladies and to be with a man who can provide for them.”
Like I said, it’s not exactly prostitution, but it kind of is.
The notion that women need to be bought things in order to feel like women is very, very sad. And very, very wrong. There are a number of reasons why. The notion that these operate as traditional relationships is hypocrisy. Even the article seems to recognize that this is not what they’re about. It’s adults taking advantage of each other—using their “gifts,” whether their currency be feminine wiles or business acumen and large salaries—to get what they want. It is a backward step. It is, bluntly, prostitution in principle.
And it is not cool.
By supporting such an event, people are seeking satisfaction. Seeking fulfilment. Pleasure. Wealth. Glamour. Whatever. It’s piling things into a pit that can never be filled by another human being.
That’s the reality of it.
Originally appeared at admiralcreedy.blogspot.com.