I’ve personally played with this kind of relationship for several years. Being forced to move constantly and establish myself repeatedly in new cities left me always needing to keep things casual longer than I wanted.
As a result, I’ve learned what works to keep these kinds of relationships truly healthy. I’ve made some mistakes, but I’ve also had incredible connections with some amazing women. And for that, I am truly blessed.
The truth is, there will more often than not be emotions that come up that will interfere with the “casual” nature of it.
Like anything, there is a payoff and a struggle associated with any choice you make. If you choose not to have casual sex, you will have to wait months, if not years, before you have sex with someone you want to date. Be willing to embrace the dry spell!
But, if you want to have a friend with benefits, you need to able to do these 2 things:
- Navigate the emotions that *will* come up
- Embrace the discomfort that comes when this type of relationship dynamic ends
If you’re able and willing to embrace the discomfort that comes with those 2 things, then you will be rewarded with intimate relationships, incredible sex, and amazing memories with partners you otherwise would have missed out on.
In this podcast, I get into HOW you can do those 2 things healthily in 7 Steps.
Article and Episode originally published at The Intimate Lifestyle.
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