Introducing the 10 greatest ways to win her over with your sense of humor.
Ask any woman what they look for in a man, and “someone who can make me laugh until my ribs hurt” is usually one of the first things they say. You should never underestimate the need for laughter in your relationship, be it your first date or fifth wedding anniversary. Don’t believe us? Researchers at the Stanford University School of Medicine back us up after a recent study revealed that women have evolved to appreciate humor and a man to produce it (no pressure, guys). Now we know that women really do find funny men more attractive — so what are you waiting for? Check out our top 10 tips, and you’ll be making her giggle in no time.
You might find yourself a hoot, but try not to make it so damn obvious. It’s OK to let out a chuckle, especially if you see she’s enjoying herself and/or you sense she’s looking on at you to share this joy that you created, but just make sure you keep a lid on it. If the roles are reversed, make sure to laugh at her jokes. She’ll feel good that she can make you laugh.
Women are natural sharers: She’s dying to tell you her secrets, sentiments and stories. Speed up the natural bonding process by sharing funny family tales. Not only will she instinctively feel more attracted to you if you tickle her funny bone, but the fact you’re sharing intimate memories will make her feel more valued, trusted and likely to open up. Keep in mind, this only works if you don’t make it too abstract, such as a “had to be there” moment. You should also avoid graphic details for now; this is not the right time to tell her about the time you had uncontrollable diarrhea on a camping trip with your brother.
Dry, deadpan humor generally goes over well. But a crucial part of this line of comedy is how you say it. If you’re delivering an incredibly witty line while beaming at her, you’re not going to give the full effect, so make sure you hone your straight-face skills. Similarly, whatever you do, do not go deadpan about something serious in a comical way — this will not go over well.
If your mom says you’re good at impressions, don’t automatically believe you’re the next Robin Williams. She gave birth to you, so she automatically loves anything you do, as long as it’s legal. But if your friends have told you that you have a knack for mimicking other people and they managed to keep a straight face as they told you this, it’s quite possible you do. But don’t spring them on her — save your impressions for the “What’s your secret talent?” question and you’ll be sure to get a laugh.
Women like men who have their ego in check, so an air of humility goes further than any Lamborghini, designer suit or house in the Hamptons. A little self-deprecating humor can be rather endearing, as it shows a vulnerable side of a man, similar to sharing personal snapshots of his life. But while a quip about “not being one for yoga” after the emergency services had to be called because you couldn’t get your leg back over your head is funny, don’t tell your date you are a good-for-nothing waste of a person. There’s a point where it just comes off as lack of confidence — and that’s never sexy.
Don’t go overboard with the confidence to the point that it comes off as self-indulgence. If you have a reputation for being a bit audacious, that’s OK. But while a confident man is a turn-on, a delusional man with a warped sense of entitlement and superiority is not. It gets boring to hear how much better you are than everyone else, y’know?
Anyone can quote lines from all-American sitcoms or try to channel Ryan Gosling. While that might reel her in, it will only work for so long. You can offer her so much more than a well-rehearsed line. You are totally unique — you have experienced life like no other person on this planet. So offer your own spin on things — and that includes humor. If you think of something that makes you laugh, chances are, it’ll give her a giggle, too.
One of the most attractive things you can do is show her that you’re capable of laughing at yourself. Who wants to go out with a guy who takes himself and everything in his life so seriously? If you spill a bit of wine down your shirt on the first date, stay cool. It doesn’t matter — just laugh it off.
If you feel pressure to take on another persona in a bid to amuse her, don’t. There’s no harm in learning new techniques to make your love interest laugh, but, ultimately, a long-lasting relationship shouldn’t involve losing your sense of self — so don’t take a comedy strategy to a place that doesn’t feel genuine. The laughter will come naturally when you find someone you can be yourself around.
This article originally appeared on Ask Men.
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