About Alyssa Royse

Alyssa is freelance writer, speaker and sex-educator living in Seattle with her boyfriend and their 3 daughters. She co-hosts Sexxx Talk Radio on The Progressive Radio Network and is the co-founder of NotSoSecret.com, a site dedicated to empowered women's sexuality. She can also be found on her eponymous blog, where she pontificates about food, family, politics and the Seattle rain.

The Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality

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Alyssa Royse explains how our current predator/prey model of sexual relationships is harmful to both men and women.

My Version of Our Story

writing about affairs, telling secrets, writing about other people, writing memoir, writing from life

The moment that we engage with others, we become characters in their story, says writer Alyssa Royse.

Why Everyone Should Get Divorced Before Marriage

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A couple comes face-to-face with their state of things.

Russell Brand, On Why Life is Better Without Drugs

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Alyssa Royse applauds the honesty and bravery of Russell Brand.

Ad Council Features Matt Lauer in a Spot Promoting Engaged Fathers

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Matt Lauer plays an elaborate game of hide-and-seek to promote the importance of engaged fathers.

The Manliest Man I Know Is Also The Girliest

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Until she met her fiancé, Alyssa Royse never understood how “girly” a manly man could be.

‘Ladies First’? How About ‘Manners First’?

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Alyssa Royse believes that teaching children the tradition of “Ladies First” only serves to reinforce sexism on many different levels.

7 Reasons Macklemore is F’ing Awesome

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Alyssa Royse thanks hip-hop artist Macklemore for helping to change the world.

Did Kathy Griffin Sexually Harass Anderson Cooper on New Year’s Eve?

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Alyssa Royse wonders how we would react if the sexual harassment leveled against Anderson Cooper on New Year’s Eve had happened to a woman.

The Biggest Bulges of 2012: Packing a Double Standard

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Alyssa Royse was enjoying the year-end round up of sexy male celebrity bulges—until she realized that this is sexual objectification, just like what she fights against every day.

Nice Guys Commit Rape Too

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Alyssa Royse believes that society’s relationship with sexuality is at least partially responsible when good men and women commit rape.