Three Rules For Fighting with Your Spouse This Holiday Season

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  1. This was an interesting article, however it was difficult for me to enjoy it as the photo image is showing a man choking a woman. I don’t believe I need to go into why the art work is disturbing in and of itself, however I am wondering why you would pair it with an article on spouses fighting- to me, this subliminally illustrates power dynamics of men controlling women, having the power in the relationship, and domestic violence. Although your article does not allude to (or promote) any of this, I feel that the picture paired with it is sending a strong message, intentional or not. Maybe think of a picture that does not illustrate violence against women and misogyny next time, particularly when writing about relationships?
    Thank you for your consideration,

  2. I’ve always said that fighting (verbally) is okay between spouses because it is at least a form of communication.

    Probably the least effective form of communication, but communication nonetheless, and that’s progress towards resolving the conflict. Of course if you can use a more rational form of communication it is always better.

  3. I Have to tell ya, I’m not sure how I feel about what you wrote and it’s for sure, the image that was posted for the article was way off base. I can think of a thousand images that would have better depicted the content of the article. But then again it’s all about attracting people to read the article.

    I’ve been married for 38 years and arguments have most certainly existed throughout the years and so have thoughts of breaking up. IMO, with the exception of maybe infidelity and/or physical abuse, I don’t see a reason to end a marriage. Neither existed in my marriage so I guess it’s easy for me to say.

    Several years ago someone gave me a suggestion …. When you’re in a big argument with your wife, get naked. It’s hard to argue naked. If you try this, let me know how it worked out.

    The above is a simple response, I’m sure if I think more about this, I could give you another page.


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