Some people experience sexual attraction only once they have an emotional connection with someone.
How Realistic is the Love is Blind Premise?
Time, exposure, and fondness on a friendship level can lead to physical attraction, but not always.
Time, exposure, and fondness on a friendship level can lead to physical attraction, but not always.
What Allows Intimacy to Flourish? Thoughts From my 17-Year-Old Self
As a teenager I sought to answer that question. At 32 despite some evolution, the responses continue to resonate.
As a teenager I sought to answer that question. At 32 despite some evolution, the responses continue to resonate.
How Inner Healing Helped me Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable Women
No more will I follow the Hansel and Gretel path to another person’s heart when it takes me so far from the integrity of my own
No more will I follow the Hansel and Gretel path to another person’s heart when it takes me so far from the integrity of my own
Important Messages for Single People in a World that Pedestalizes Coupledom and Romantic Partnership
Your life might actually be full enough as it is.
Your life might actually be full enough as it is.
It’s Harder to Have ‘Meet Cutes’ When You’re a Straight-Passing Gay — But They’re Lovely When They Happen
Or maybe an employee approaching to notify me of closing time.
Or maybe an employee approaching to notify me of closing time.
How a Need to Prove Ourselves Blocks Us From Making Sound Dating Decisions
Mindfulness and practicing detachment can help strip it of its power.
Mindfulness and practicing detachment can help strip it of its power.
The Disappearing Friend— Mourning a Loss When You Don’t Know the ‘Why’
“Relationships in life don’t really end, even if you never see the person again. Every person you’ve been close to lives on somewhere inside you. Sometimes you have conversations with them in your head; sometimes they speak to you in your sleep.” — Lori Gottlieb
“Relationships in life don’t really end, even if you never see the person again. Every person you’ve been close to lives on somewhere inside you. Sometimes you have conversations with them in your head; sometimes they speak to you in your sleep.” — Lori Gottlieb
Roadblocks to Vulnerable Communication, and Ways to Overcome Them
Awareness of our own patterns and their interaction with other people’s can help make it more navigable.
Awareness of our own patterns and their interaction with other people’s can help make it more navigable.
The Benefits of Having a ‘Type’ When Dating
You go in aware of what you want, far more like a cartographer than a gambler — guided by your heart, mind, and inner knowing.
You go in aware of what you want, far more like a cartographer than a gambler — guided by your heart, mind, and inner knowing.
Can You Date Someone You’re Not Fully Physically Attracted To?
Thoughts from a lesbian who used to date men.
Thoughts from a lesbian who used to date men.
What My First Heartbreak in College Taught Me About Missed Opportunity and Unlearning Vulnerability As Scary
Some people just aren’t the right fit, and never will be. But care about something with enough of your heart, and it’s always worth some risk.
Some people just aren’t the right fit, and never will be. But care about something with enough of your heart, and it’s always worth some risk.
Dating Advice from a Blue-Footed Galapagos Bird
Befriend your mind, brush up on paradox of choice, and don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
Befriend your mind, brush up on paradox of choice, and don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
We’re Not Living in a Queer Utopia Just Yet — But We Will Be One Day
A post heteronormative world might have a ways to go before becoming a reality. Still, we can keep it in the backs of our minds as an enticing possibility.
A post heteronormative world might have a ways to go before becoming a reality. Still, we can keep it in the backs of our minds as an enticing possibility.
How to Keep Assumptions from Weighing Down Your Relationships
I told my dad I was disappointed; he chuckled and told me to look inside the bag.
I told my dad I was disappointed; he chuckled and told me to look inside the bag.
How Shame Sabotages Relationships – A Look Ahead at the Queer Plot-line in Sex Life of College Girls Season 2
“I can’t go back into the closet with you,” she says, teary-eyed but resolute.
“I can’t go back into the closet with you,” she says, teary-eyed but resolute.