The subject of relationships in their various forms inevitably came up countless times when I was a Lyft driver.
Breaking Down Barriers — Dating Tips for the Avoidantly Attached
People with avoidant attachment style tend to not attach quickly.
People with avoidant attachment style tend to not attach quickly.
From Fear to Flourish — Dating Tips for the Anxiously Attached
Individuals with anxious attachment have a tendency to attach quickly and to idealize early on.
Individuals with anxious attachment have a tendency to attach quickly and to idealize early on.
The Fearful-Avoidant Style Is More Common Than Psychology Makes it Out to Be
Conceptualizing attachment as falling more along a spectrum would ideally bring us closer and encourage greater empathy.
Conceptualizing attachment as falling more along a spectrum would ideally bring us closer and encourage greater empathy.
How to Assess if Your Date is Actively Cultivating a Secure Attachment
A pattern will continue to play out unless a person has consciously taken action to interrupt it.
A pattern will continue to play out unless a person has consciously taken action to interrupt it.
Identifying Secure, Avoidant, and Anxious Traits in the Early Stages of Dating
Pay attention to these cues not for the aim of needlessly placing anyone into a box, but to provide context and guide you in your process.
Pay attention to these cues not for the aim of needlessly placing anyone into a box, but to provide context and guide you in your process.
Love in Plural: the Pros and Cons of Polyamory
Viewing relationships through a poly lens can grant deeper insight on the roots of insecurity, entitlement, and jealousy.
Viewing relationships through a poly lens can grant deeper insight on the roots of insecurity, entitlement, and jealousy.
Love Beyond First Sight — Why First Impressions in Dating Aren’t Always Reliable
While it’s difficult to set aside them entirely, it is possible to shelve them for short periods of time and allow our dates to surprise us.
While it’s difficult to set aside them entirely, it is possible to shelve them for short periods of time and allow our dates to surprise us.
Navigating the Goldilocks Zone in Dating and Healing — From Excess to Equilibrium
Resolving the hurt from one set of circumstances doesn’t lie in indulging the opposite state.
Resolving the hurt from one set of circumstances doesn’t lie in indulging the opposite state.
What Are the Limitations of Attachment Theory?
Helpful and elucidating as I find it, it’s still just one piece of a larger whole when it comes to self-understanding.
Helpful and elucidating as I find it, it’s still just one piece of a larger whole when it comes to self-understanding.
Time Is the Only True Positive Sign When it Comes to Modern Dating
What might seem like initial good omens don’t mean things will work out, and can even lure you into a false sense of safety.
What might seem like initial good omens don’t mean things will work out, and can even lure you into a false sense of safety.
Unpacking ‘Love Dusting’ — A Subtler Variation of Love Bombing in the Early Stages of Dating
Sometimes their attachment isn’t to the person you really are, but to the idea of who you might be.
Sometimes their attachment isn’t to the person you really are, but to the idea of who you might be.
What Are Yield Signs in Dating?
We hear often about red flags, but sometimes the cues are more ambiguous and less severe.
We hear often about red flags, but sometimes the cues are more ambiguous and less severe.
How Chasing ‘The Spark’ Can Sabotage Finding Lasting Love
A baseline of physical attraction and shared values are enough for a deeper relationship to grow.
A baseline of physical attraction and shared values are enough for a deeper relationship to grow.
Reframing the ‘Avoidants Are Broken’ Narrative — A More Nuanced Look at Attachment Theory
Despite the difficulty of an anxious-avoidant relationship, partners within one can work towards greater security together.
Despite the difficulty of an anxious-avoidant relationship, partners within one can work towards greater security together.
The Allure and Drawbacks to Fantasy Relationships
These connections provide an illusory sense of safety and control — but when the fantasy dissolves, disappointment sets in.
These connections provide an illusory sense of safety and control — but when the fantasy dissolves, disappointment sets in.