An Open Letter to those who think depression and other mental illnesses are a choice and that we can just ‘snap out of it’.
The hole in my heart is back.
One of the symptoms of depression is extreme chronic fatigue. The kind that prevents you from participating in social activities or your favorite hobby or even holding down a job. The kind that prevents you from having a life.
Avoidance doesn’t work.
Old ways won’t open new doors.
Just about ANYTHING can be a trigger, depending on the day. It can be helpful to know what yours are.
Practice Makes Permanent.
For a long time, I was unable to identify my triggers for depression or wanting to drink or use. And then, someone along my journey suggested I make a “Safety Plan”.
When you project confidence, people notice.
Beware the snowball effect.
Loneliness, that big empty feeling that engulfs my whole self—that one hurts. But it’s not the same as being alone.
Was this violent shooter perfectly “normal” before the incident, no warning signs, no nothing, and just *snapped*? How do we even explore such a question?
Too often, we believe what our brains tell us. Beliefs like “I suck!”, “I’m such a stupid moron!” or “I am so ugly!” do so much damage, it can literally take a lifetime to see through that self-doubt and find the truth.
Tuning into our body and emotions by practicing mindfulness will help deal with anxiety.
I have anxiety, and I feel it at some point almost every day. But panic attacks? Those are not the same thing.
Depression may make you a hostage to your thoughts and those dark thoughts are likely not the truth.