Trying to understand what goes into being, and becoming, emotionally available, to yourself, to someone else — and in a time of isolation.
What Is There to Look Forward to?
I didn’t anticipate how much I’d miss anticipation.
I didn’t anticipate how much I’d miss anticipation.
When There Is No Shelter at Home
For so many women, shelter-in-place has escalated not just the threats of abuse, but the real thing.
For so many women, shelter-in-place has escalated not just the threats of abuse, but the real thing.
Heartache in the Time of Corona
We sure picked one hell of a time to separate, didn’t we?
We sure picked one hell of a time to separate, didn’t we?
To Better Yourself, Think of Someone Else
A simple act of kindness was a milestone on my long, slow path to recovery.
A simple act of kindness was a milestone on my long, slow path to recovery.
I Am More Than What I’ve Lost
What does dealing with and (eventually, hopefully) overcoming heartbreak have to do with being a man today? Everything.
What does dealing with and (eventually, hopefully) overcoming heartbreak have to do with being a man today? Everything.
The One Word Path to Healthier Sex
When it comes to sex, there’s a one-word piece of advice that applies just as much to me today as it would have five, 10, 15 or more years ago.
When it comes to sex, there’s a one-word piece of advice that applies just as much to me today as it would have five, 10, 15 or more years ago.
The Problem With ‘Getting’ Sex
It's good to notice the possessive perspective and language of sex as attainment, achievement, and conquest.
It’s good to notice the possessive perspective and language of sex as attainment, achievement, and conquest.
The Best Sex Advice a Man Can Learn
Here I delve a little deeper into what men today should be considering, in the sexual realm, of what it means to be a better man.
Here I delve a little deeper into what men today should be considering, in the sexual realm, of what it means to be a better man.
Men Need to Talk About Sex…With Each Other
We can’t talk about what it means to be a man without discussing sex.
We can’t talk about what it means to be a man without discussing sex.
The Pressure of Providing
I find it odd that a majority of men reported not rethinking their on-the-job behavior in light of #MeToo. Really?
I find it odd that a majority of men reported not rethinking their on-the-job behavior in light of #MeToo. Really?
Is Losing Love a Tragedy?
What I am arguing is that, while some things, sure, “could be worse,” there are in fact few things as tragic as losing love.
What I am arguing is that, while some things, sure, “could be worse,” there are in fact few things as tragic as losing love.
Own Your Career, Share Your Money (and Yourself)
What are the implications on a relationship when a man earns less money than his spouse or significant other? (You'd think this wouldn't still be a thing, right?)
What are the implications on a relationship when a man earns less money than his spouse or significant other? (You’d think this wouldn’t still be a thing, right?)
When You Look at Women, What Do You See?
What is not complicated is whether or not it’s OK to grope women.
What is not complicated is whether or not it’s OK to grope women.
Emotional Labor for Men, Part II: Fix Yourself
It’s about taking ownership. It’s about not making the other person always have to ask.
It’s about taking ownership. It’s about not making the other person always have to ask.
Deal With It: On Men Accepting Rejection
My therapist told me that violent fantasies were common, that it was the desire to act out on those fantasies that was the problem.
My therapist told me that violent fantasies were common, that it was the desire to act out on those fantasies that was the problem.