There are plenty of times when it’s difficult not being with my kids. But what I can give them is 110% dad when they are with me. I have the rest of the time, when they are not with me, to heal and focus on myself and my goals.
How to Love Someone Who Is Struggling: Relationship Building Skills
We all come into relationships with our issues.
We all come into relationships with our issues.
Alignment in Time and Space: Finding and Refinding Your Partner
Often the universe does not align with our goals and desires. We have to listen and keep reaching out to our partners.
My inner dialogue and my personal biographical story continue to be written even when I cannot share this night. My hope is that the gossamer connections between us will still carry enough energy and information to keep our souls interested in reconnecting and rejoining and that we both find the desire and time to make it happen.
The New Rules of Sex: Frequency, Fun, and Fantasy
In relationships sex can be a challenge, how do we find and keep our sexual sync?
Keeping sexual communication open throughout your relationship is critical. As one partner starts closing off, and not just having periods of low sexual desire, but shutting down the idea of sex, something is going to break down.
Whole Adults Dating Again: Knowing Ourselves, What We Won’t Compromise
It's all about time, updated dating rules for building a lasting relationship.
What am I willing to give up to be WITH someone. What would “tonight” look like if there were another person waiting in the wings to spend time with me.
This Feels Like Letting Go: A Moody Season with Storms and Sunshine
So much of my life has been spent in longing moods. This is comfortable. This is not what I want.
I can forgive and still love each of these women in their various states of disrepair. I can walk away knowing I brought my best game into their lives. I can walk away with my heart still on my sleeve, because that’s how I go through life. And I can refind my hopefulness.
Time, the Currency of Modern Relationships: Either You Have it to Give…
Once you have decided to move on, you must understand that your former partner owes you nothing. Closure is a myth we like to "go for" in our breakups, but closure is up to us as individuals.
Once you have decided to move on, you must understand that your former partner owes you nothing. Closure is a myth we like to “go for” in our breakups, but closure is up to us as individuals.
That Long-Term Relationship You Are Seeking… It’s With Yourself
Each time we suffer a breakup, we have to confront ourselves being alone. What if we start healing right there?
There is no bridge that’s going to make our relationship work again, so my longing necessarily stayed in my own heart. There is no sense in sharing our desires and hopes when the other person is not available. It only makes it hurt worse.
Love on the Air Podcast: From Online Dating to a 10-year Anniversary
Tina Schweiger tells us about her amazing first date that is essentially still going.
Each one of us wants to feel loved. We seek a partner. We navigate dating introductions to hopefully find someone to share our lives with. We commit to a relationship and try to make it work. We fail. And we find the courage and energy to start over.
Marriage Story Review: Reckoning with the Blowback
There is no #metoo moment in Marriage Story.
The parents in Marriage Story tried. And when the mom is unable to read the things she loves about her husband, we see her hot flash of realization as she leaves the mediation without engaging in the process.
Navigating Difficult Conversations in a Romantic Relationship w Grace
Learning to listen without fear, judgement, or advice giving, is a ninja relationship skill.
You must give your partner the assurance that you are not running away. And you must also allow them to hold their own pain. By “staying in your own lane” you are giving them several strong messages.
The Inner Life of Your Kid: Navigating Our Own Rainy Fridays
A single dad recalls his parent's divorce and how his own divorce transformed his life.
We’re all walking down our own little hallways. We’re all singing our inner songs. And we’re probably all a bit distracted and unsure of exactly where we should go. We know the way to our homeroom. We may not be sure about how to navigate the rainy Fridays along the way.
Six Masterclass Lessons on Divorce: Finding a Light After the Loss
Divorce is like a massive life reset. Here are some ideas about making it a massive win.
Always ask for what you need. Your partner cannot read your mind. And that angry look your giving them may not convey what you’re hoping to convey. Talk about it. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt.
“Alexa, Please…” An Open Letter to Amazon’s Alexa from All Parents
What are we teaching our kids and ourselves when we scream across the room at Alexa?
How hard would it be for Amazon to write the “Alexa Please” software mod? After it is installed, Alexa does her best to have good manners as well. She won’t respond unless she gets a “please” tossed in amongst the jumble of other commands kids (and adults) are shouting at her.
“When Are You Going to Get Over Your Divorce?” Is the Wrong Question
With kids, this single dad asks the questions he's still wondering about his ex-wife's motivations.
If we could balance out the misguided and harmful family court system in favor of a 50/50 cooperative parenting culture, we would have healthier kids. We would also see fewer wealthy bulldog divorce attorneys hawking their winning strategies. In a divorce, no one wins. But in divorce moms and dads should be considered equally.
You Either Show Up 100% of the Time, Or You’re Gone: Dating to Love
How are you showing up in your dating relationships? Are you clear on what you want?
I believe the quest for love is a spiritual journey. Either your deliberate and intentional about it, or you are just screwing around.