An 8-year-old child of divorce, Thom wanted approval from his Scoutmaster. Instead, he was preyed on. Fifty years later, the effects of the abuse still loom large.
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He Has A Gun
Jeremy Adam Smith’s son asked, “Did they get the bad guys?” Turns out, that was a really difficult question to answer.
A Ruined Body Is A Poem
Julie Gillis, on lust, bodies, aging and kindness.
I Am a Female Nerd. Apparently.
Marianne Cassidy thinks being a female nerd is trendy. Except when that’s all guys see in her.
Not Just Physically Do I Begin to Shatter
Vince Cousino Anila rides his bike, trying to escape the shadow of the abusive father he won’t become.
How To Be a Man
Jason Sperber requests a redefinition of what it means to be masculine.
Is it the End of Gender, or the Beginning of Men?
Perhaps there is a new masculinity unfolding. Perhaps this is the beginning.
Perhaps there is a new masculinity unfolding. Perhaps this is the beginning.
Sex & Drugs Made Me a Man
Jesse Kornbluth thinks character and hard work are great and all, but this essay is about women (oh, and drugs too).
Jesse Kornbluth thinks character and hard work are great and all, but this essay is about women (oh, and drugs too).
Rock Salt Blues
“I was almost killed by men with shotguns, on a raft, down a river.” Sounds like the start of a blues song to us.
27 Years Without a Fix
Ron Tannebaum shares his story of the luxurious wealth and crippling addiction that came with smuggling, dealing, and ultimately abusing cocaine and heroin.
A Letter to My Future Son
Max Dubinsky writes to his son before he is born.
The Sexual Revolution: A Personal History
Curtis Smith takes us on a personal romp through the decades of the sexual revolution.
The Ethics of Vocabulary (Sexual and Otherwise)
Lisa Hickey believes some words are used to create intimacy and some to marginalize. So how do we marginalize less and connect more?
Lisa Hickey believes that some words are used to create intimacy and some to marginalize. How do we use them to marginalize less and connect more?
Harvard, Learn to Share
Dear Harvard, we have a problem. The educational system is broken. Surely you can help fix it?
It’s Okay to Want Sex
For Harris O’Malley, being willing to admit that he was interested in sex – and understanding that yes, women liked it as much as he did – made his relationships more authentic, and sex more collaborative.
Awaiting Vesuvius
When a romance is over, it’s over. The problem according to Jackie Summers, is that no one ever evacuates Pompeii until the volcano erupts.