After Lori outlines some common misconceptions that are perpetuated by porn, readers share their experiences, add to the list, and talk about how porn impacts society. What do you think? What have you experienced?
These are comments by Dr. Adam Sheck, Damien, and FQuattrone on the post “5 Unrealistic Sex Moves Men Learn from Watching Porn“.
Dr. Adam Sheck said:
While I must say I’ve learned a few things from pornography over the years, none of your top five are among the list. Facials never made sense to me except for “marking your turf”, as for me, it feels so much better coming IN as opposed to ON.
I understand the visual, but just as there is the perception that skinny/boney girls visually seem more appealing in our society, the kinesthetics are antithetical to this, at least for me. Same thing with ejaculation, feels better in the mouth versus whatever told us it looks better on the face.
Have my opinions about anal sex as well, but atm just seems like an accident waiting to happen to everyone involved at some point.
Damien said:
I also back up that porn seems to say women want it hard and fast with a mechanically regulated speed all the way until the end.
That and good sex has to involve at least 4 or 5 position transitions.
From my experience good sex is nothing like that at all.
I grew so bored of porn and the fakeness, degradation and unconsciousness of it that I cannot stand to watch it anymore.
FQuattrone said:
Reasonable requests I think. All those moves seem absurdly silly to me as a guy. I think the porn movement has had to go to further extremes to move product, but that train left the station of reality a long time ago. Use it to learn where the important parts are and to enjoy watching, but not a guide on normal bedroom conduct.
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I love having sex with my girlfriend, and she tells me she loves it too. I also watch some porn, because we live long distance. I know my girlfriend doesn’t look like the women in those videos, and I don’t expect her to. I just get horny and when you live hundreds of miles apart, a weekend or evening together is harder to schedule. Can’t I love making love with her and watching porn at the same time?
My amateurish, TMI theory about facials: The prevalence of facials in porn is partly because porn is a visual medium and partly because the porn that shows facials is overwhelmingly made for men who are masturbating with their penises in their hands. You see the ejaculation on the screen, because it’s supposed to mirror your own ejaculation. Seeing one is connected to seeing the other. Ejaculating into thin air therefore becomes more eroticized, so much that ejaculating into thin air becomes something that she enjoys as well. It’s a way to pretend that what you’re doing by yourself is something… Read more »