Are You in the Mistress Zone?

Have you accepted that you are in the mistress zone?

“What’s that,” you ask?

It’s like the dreaded “friend-zone.” You can hope that you might move past being friend-zoned but it never quite happens. No matter what you do or say helps. He’s not attracted to you or you’re not into him. Friend zone material results.

Men have women they see as wives, and some they see as mistresses, and rarely do those two converge.

“I’d never marry a woman who’d cheat!”

“She’s not wife material.”

It’s a hypocritical part of the Madonna/whore complex. A woman who’d sleep with a married man is both exciting and repulsive. Her sexual appetite is a turn on! Yet, he’d never marry a woman so immoral and slutty. She is forever the faithless whore.

You are good enough for “just sex” but nothing more.

Don’t justify his behavior.

“Oh, he’s just having trouble with his wife.”
“He’s with her for the kids.”
“Divorce is so messy, he can’t leave.”

The reality is that you are THE MISTRESS.

If he wanted you, he’d be with you. Swallow that bitter pill. Time to move on.

Maybe he wants to “do the right thing.”
Or to be a “good husband” again.
Whatever that means. It could be the truth or a blatant lie.

If they were interested, they’d know how to keep you. People must invest time and effort in order to receive your time and effort in return. You set the rules and boundaries.

You’ve been mistress-zoned. End of story.

Find a man who sees you as the WOMAN, not the OTHER WOMAN.

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Previously Published on Medium