How can a privileged white male possibly understand what it is like to be black in America? By listening. I hope you’ll join me.
Listen to Real Men Feel, #185, “Being Black in America” here:
How many times have you sat down and discussed racism with people of another race? That’s what I did today. It was disturbing and uncomfortable, and I highly recommend it.
My friend Al made a video this week after yet another unarmed black male was murdered for no reason. You can watch it here. He challenged white people to do something. I thought the least I can do is pull together a fast conversation and encourage everyone to do the same
In addition to Al (check him out in ep 142 Regular Guy Chat with Al) I reached to out William Moore (ep 146 Men’s Role in Birth) and Dr. Lulu (see ep 152 Suicide Risk Factors) and in less than 24 hours we had a show.
I was horrified to discover how much fear black men live in on a daily basis, and the lengths some mothers feel driven too in order to protect their children.
Topics and Questions Include:
- How does it feel to keep seeing black men killed for being black men?
- What is this rooted in?
- Can anything be done?
- What is it like to be an African American mom today?
- Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome
- Are white people afraid of black people?
- Are there actionable steps?
- Living in fear.
- White privilege.
- Trusting the medical system.
Watch Real Men Feel, #185, Being Black in America, May 9, 2020
Black people are so tired. 😓
We can’t go jogging (#AhmaudArbery).
We can’t relax in the comfort of our own homes (#BothemSean and #AtatianaJefferson).
We can’t ask for help after being in a car crash (#JonathanFerrell and #RenishaMcBride).
We can’t have a cellphone (#StephonClark).
We can’t leave a party to get to safety (#JordanEdwards).
We can’t play loud music (#JordanDavis).
We can’t sell CD’s (#AltonSterling).
We can’t sleep (#AiyanaJones)
We can’t walk from the corner store (#MikeBrown).
We can’t play cops and robbers (#TamirRice).
We can’t go to church (#Charleston9).
We can’t walk home with Skittles (#TrayvonMartin).
We can’t hold a hairbrush while leaving our own bachelor party (#SeanBell).
We can’t party on New Years (#OscarGrant).
We can’t get a normal traffic ticket (#SandraBland).
We can’t lawfully carry a weapon (#PhilandoCastile).
We can’t break down on a public road with car problems (#CoreyJones).
We can’t shop at Walmart (#JohnCrawford) .
We can’t have a disabled vehicle (#TerrenceCrutcher).
We can’t read a book in our own car (#KeithScott).
We can’t be a 10yr old walking with our grandfather (#CliffordGlover).
We can’t decorate for a party (#ClaudeReese).
We can’t ask a cop a question (#RandyEvans).
We can’t cash our check-in peace (#YvonneSmallwood).
We can’t take out our wallet (#AmadouDiallo).
We can’t run (#WalterScott).
We can’t breathe (#EricGarner).
We can’t live (#FreddieGray).
Tired of making hashtags.
Tired of trying to convince you that our #BlackLivesMatter too.
Tired of dying.
So very tired.
All people should be tired of this.
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