This comment was by Wes in reference to the post – The Dream of a healthy Marriage—an Open Letter toHusbands Regarding His Attention for Her
Great article. I don’t always believe that’s it’s just the man’s fault. We only hear one side of this equation. Maybe he is doing all that and maybe she’s forgotten about his needs and that’s why he’s so disconnected.
For the sake of this article and my next point, let’s say it’s as you say it is.
The only thing I can think to add is, ask her what you can do today to make her life better. What do you need from me today? Because at the end of the day we can try and do the things we think they want us doing for them, but we might be totally off and unless we ask, we don’t know.
I had read an article about that on this site and it really resonated with me, much as this article does. And like you, I wish I could have been more present for my ex and asked her each day what I could do to make her happy.
I wish I had the opportunity to go back and tell her how proud I was of her, how great I thought she was and how much I really supported her in the things she wanted to do.
Instead, my fear and insecurities became my focus and criticism became my love language.
I know exactly how I’ll be when I get the next opportunity and I look forward to the chance.
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