Question: Hey Coach Allana, I have a little crush on my son’s 2nd Grade teacher. How inappropriate is it to ask her out on a date?
Answer: This is such a great question, they’ve made movies out of this very situation. You are not alone! 🙂
I also love how you asked, “how appropriate…” Not IF it was appropriate… as if you’ve already concluded it’s NOT appropriate 🙂 Maybe… maybe not.
Let’s take worst-case scenario: You date and it doesn’t go very well. You break her heart, she breaks yours. Every day for the rest of Grade 2 you feel a little weird and she feels a little weird and your SON feels a little weird… And it gets in the way of the purest freedom and joy and full self expression of being in Grade 2. (whoops… That’s the Canadian in me coming out, Grade 2… And the US I’m supposed to say 2nd Grade, right? xox) You’d never want your son to think HE was wrong when all along it was you or she that was acting weird, right?
Next, best case scenario: You date but it goes quite well! You grow closer and closer over the year and your son leaves 2nd Grade with the happiest Dad and teacher and life! Come grade 3, your son’s friends ask if your dad is dating the 2nd Grade teacher and your son says yes! She’s pretty cool 🙂 So long as things went well and if you broke up it was done with consciousness and kindness so your son didn’t feel weird, then it would rock!
So in a perfect world my greatest recommendation would be that you volunteer in your son’s 2nd Grade classroom and start building a friendship and relationship with her. Then on the last day of Grade 2 ask her out for a date! To me that’s the best of both worlds without the risk of anything getting uncomfortable for your son.
You might even be straight with her and let her know that you’re purposefully not going to ask her out until the last day of school to honor your son and honor her, but to let her know that you’re interested and you’re taking the noble path. That would be hot, talk about building sexual tension! 🙂
In my coaching sessions I teach people about how to listen to the energy of the situation, the possibility, how the 99.999% of the quantum soup, the Field, speaks to us through the sensations in our body. Generally when a decision is expansive for all, we feel a lightness or expansion in our body, sometimes even a breath of life. And when a decision is not for the highest good of all or not in the direction of your greatest contribution, we feel a heaviness or a contraction or even sick to our stomach. Some people even hear a yes or a no in their awareness.
I tell you this because inside you somewhere you know.
Somewhere inside all of us we know.
The practice is to get quiet enough out of the spinning mind and through an open heart into the deeper knowing of our gut. In my complementary training, how to be a noble bad ass found at www.gethertosayyes.com , I provide many ways home to that centered and grounded part of yourself that to me is the making of a noble bad ass. I encourage you to download it and see if it supports you in making a decision that resonates with your Truth 🙂
Sending you so much love, Allana
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