This episode shows you what it takes, beyond confidence or bravado, to be a truly powerful man and to “grow up” your younger parts, rather than avoiding them or trying to get rid of them.
If you’ve ever thought about how to be more powerful as a man, this is a great episode for you to listen to!
Many men think that to be powerful they need a lot of confidence and bravado.
In my experience coaching men for 20 years, and seeing how women respond to them, this belief misses what’s really going on — and not only with women, but with your own happiness and self-worth.
While confidence is part of power (and it’s important to understand what confidence really is — which we’ll save for another time), there is much more going on beneath the surface that creates power or powerlessness.
Some of it is surprising and might be really different than you’d imagine. It often takes embracing the younger parts in you, rather than avoiding or trying to get rid of them.
In this Man Alive podcast I was joined by Kenny Mammarella-D’Cruz. He was dubbed by Newsweek as the “Man Whisperer” and has been a personal development consultant, working with men since 2002. In this conversation we discussed…
- The four foundations of becoming a Powerful Man
- Why your emotions and vulnerability are actually a path to freedom
- The path to being interdependent, rather than codependent
- Why it’s important to embrace the boy inside you and move through the trauma of younger years
- How to meet life’s challenges with strength and courage, but not alone
The most powerful men I know are also the ones who are most willing to embrace and share all parts of themselves — their sadness, longing, anger, fear… You don’t have to get rid of any part of you to be stronger and more manly.
When you’re done with this one, check out another episode that focuses on power: How to be an effective leader with a powerful impact.
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Kenny Mammarella-D’Cruz is the “Man Whisperer” (Newsweek) who helps men achieve their life, relationship and career goals. As a personal development consultant, Kenny runs workshops and sees individuals and couples for private consultations. He has been holding men’s groups in London and online since 2002 and now teaches a men’s group facilitator training workshop. His MenSpeak Charity will launch later this year. Kenny loves helping men (and women) gain the awareness and tools to consciously embody their potential and meet all of life’s challenges.
Check out Honest Sex, a new book author Shana James.
Some say we are outgrowing marriage as a culture. However, the problem that author Shana James regularly sees as a relationship coach—and through her own divorce—is that many of us have not matured enough to create the emotionally-connected, sexually-satisfying relationships we long for.
Honest Sex teaches us what kind of honesty is effective for creating closeness, what sex actually is (rather than what we’ve been taught), and how to communicate desires and upsets to create more intimacy. By examining new ways to sustain connection with a partner, author Shana James illuminates a framework for relationships to start strong and get more intimate and exciting over time.
James is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast and has a TEDx Talk, “What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.” As a relationship coach for 20 years, she humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Her first book, Power and Pleasure: A Man’s Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader, supports men to be fulfilled in love and work. In this book, written for all genders, she uses her Master’s in psychology, DISC, and Positive Intelligence certifications to guide readers to create more honest and passionate romantic relationships.
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