I almost bailed
“Where would you like to meet up and what time?”
I cringed. And if I’m being brutally honest, I debated whether to bail.
Several days prior, I had agreed to a date with a man I had met online. Details hadn’t been pinned down yet, which was fine. For now, I had an evening blocked off for him.
However, I wasn’t expecting to “plan” the date myself at the last minute. I was in the middle of a busy work day and was not in a headspace to figure this out at 3 pm on a Tuesday during a zoom call with Bob from Procurement.
Suddenly, I felt obligated to figure out what I was in the mood for, where we should meet, what we should do, and how we should meet up and what would work for him as well.
Should I suggest dinner or just a cocktail? His area or mine? I had no idea.
I do try to be mindful and considerate.
It was a bunch of details I wasn’t prepared to think through.
It kind of stressed me out.
Instead, please do this
My phone chimed. I glanced down and instantly smiled.
“Monday 6:45”
And then a link to a fabulous swanky steakhouse that looked divine.
This man knew exactly how to do it. A week earlier, he asked if I was free on Monday and when I said yes, he took command of doing the rest.
All I had to do was show up.
What else I loved
His proposed plan showed me that he has phenomenal taste in restaurants. I was very impressed by his choice, which scored him some major points.
More than that, he showed me that I could trust him to be in command when the situation calls for it. A dating situation isn’t just two people hanging out together; it’s a courtship where the person asking for the date takes the lead.
He showed me that he’s comfortable taking that lead and can be trusted to make good choices. That’s important for me as a feminine woman to see as I get to know a man.
How he handles situations is instrumental for me developing a sense of trust and safety with him.
And that man nailed it.
The essence of a man
I can relax and develop trust when I know that the man I am with has a plan, a sense of direction and a purpose to what he is doing.
This is part of the essence of a man that I love.
And it’s one I hold great admiration and respect for. ❤
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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