Connie K. Grier, our new weekly contributor, will be exploring the tough questions, discussing the often overlooked issues, and sharing the life lessons that come from the day to day raising of boys.
Teens are rarely certain about life events, as they have a whole lot of living to do before deciding the non-negotiable aspects regarding their future…
When it came to the gender of my future children however, nineteen was the age that my decision was cemented, my line drawn in the sand, and my maternal desires burned into my heart.
I would have the “what kind of mother will you be” conversations with girlfriends who would become my sisters-in law. I knew, unequivocally, that I wanted two children and I knew they HAD to be boys. Yup. Why, you ask? Well for me, these things were true:
- I was a hair styling failure (and still am). There was no way I could handle the stress of doing the hair of a daughter. I mean; it just would not be pretty.
- Boys were, in my estimation, less sassy, more agreeable and there would be no issues with “princesses must challenge the queen of the hive” dramatically, subtly, or sneakily.
I was blessed with having my maternal dreams come true. I gave birth to twin boys, so the rest would be gravy…
Or so I thought.
Raising sons actually presents its own set of challenges, and in today’s world, the challenges not only impact the ebb and flow of households, but also can be a matter of life and death for our sons, and can be an overwhelming, frightening enterprise for parents. As a mother of boys, and as a lifelong educator and mentor, I take the charge of saving the lives of our young men very seriously. While current national events highlight the seriously dangerous times we live in, pitfalls for our boys in the arenas of education, post secondary success, relationship building and the criminal justice system have been present for decades, if not centuries.
To that end, I am honored to dialogue with you weekly regarding the topic of Raising Boys. This journey is definitely not for the faint of heart, and while I in no way have all of the answers, I will respectfully explore the tough questions and discuss the often swept under the rug issues, while at the same time sharing the laughter, frustrations and life lessons that come from the day to day raising of intelligent, inquisitive and often ripe (yeah I said it, downright funky at times) boys. Raising boys to be courageous, just, and empathetic men is not only my pleasure, but also my responsibility.
It is, Of Utmost Urgency.