A forensic look at the extinction burst.
Sex & Relationships
The Narcissist’s Strategy Was the Trap
You don’t need seven steps to outsmart him. You need to stop playing the game.
You don’t need seven steps to outsmart him. You need to stop playing the game.
The Road Not Taken, Revisited
For the futures we forsook and the versions of ourselves we shall never meet.
For the futures we forsook and the versions of ourselves we shall never meet.
The Space Beside You
On marriage, communication, and the art of partnership.
On marriage, communication, and the art of partnership.
The Real Reason Men Fall in Love (And It’s Not Looks or Personality)
I spent three years being loved for what I did and calling it a relationship. Then Hanna said one sentence on her balcony and I couldn't answer her.
I spent three years being loved for what I did and calling it a relationship. Then Hanna said one sentence on her balcony and I couldn’t answer her.
The Top 3 Mistakes Men Make When Flirting With Women
Lots of men tell me they are confused and afraid when it comes to flirting with women. It’s not hard, however, to transform this experience.
Lots of men tell me they are confused and afraid when it comes to flirting with women. It’s not hard, however, to transform this experience.
Why Some People Only Show You How Much They Care When They’re About to Lose You
The panic looks like love. It is actually the sudden realization that the supply is about to be cut off.
The panic looks like love. It is actually the sudden realization that the supply is about to be cut off.
You Don’t Have a Relationship, You Have Access
Access is not intimacy. Intimacy is not partnership. Every confusion between them costs someone dearly.
Access is not intimacy. Intimacy is not partnership. Every confusion between them costs someone dearly.
I Kept Choosing People Who Couldn’t Love Me. It Wasn’t Bad Luck. It Was a Decision I Didn’t Know I Was Making
We don’t fall for who we want. We fall for what feels familiar. And familiar is not always safe.
We don’t fall for who we want. We fall for what feels familiar. And familiar is not always safe.
8 Subtle Red Flags You Ignored Because You Were Desperate for Love
They weren’t hidden. You saw every one of them. You just needed the relationship more than you needed the truth.
They weren’t hidden. You saw every one of them. You just needed the relationship more than you needed the truth.
11 Sickening Signs You’re Dealing With a Sneaky Female Narcissist
Not every education I got in this came from a man. Some of it came from a friendship that moved faster than any relationship I'd had.
Not every education I got in this came from a man. Some of it came from a friendship that moved faster than any relationship I’d had.
Through the Wall
I write to you what I don’t say when you’re in the next room.
I write to you what I don’t say when you’re in the next room.
The Narcissist Didn’t Destroy the Woman You Were. He Used Her
The second grief of narcissistic abuse is mourning the loving, trusting woman whose best qualities became his fuel.
The second grief of narcissistic abuse is mourning the loving, trusting woman whose best qualities became his fuel.
You Felt It, Dismissed It, and Then They Texted: Why You’re Always One Step Late
Something is happening.
Something is happening.
I Wasn’t Quiet. I Was Waiting to Feel Safe Enough to Love.
Maybe I was never shy. Maybe I needed someone who made me feel safe enough to let the real me come out.
Maybe I was never shy. Maybe I needed someone who made me feel safe enough to let the real me come out.
How to Repair After People-Pleasing and Share What You Really Want
Learn how to recognise people-pleasing patterns and repair with honesty for healthier connections.
Learn how to recognise people-pleasing patterns and repair with honesty for healthier connections.