Why men and women knowing the truth about who their competition is will empower them.
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Like the business market, at least two out of every four guys has a minimal idea what the hell he’s doing.
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There are some parallels between lessons in business and dating. If you are successful in either, you can pull key lessons learned into the other and be successful. Now what I’ve come to see, and ultimately believe about dating (and business competition) from those I’ve talked to and what I’ve seen, is something I like to call the 2-1-1 theory. Some women may say there is a vast percentage of men (or that we’re all) doing it wrong. However, I believe the following to be true.
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Like the business market, at least two out of every four guys has a minimal idea what the hell he’s doing. He lacks an adequate plan. He doesn’t hold himself well. He is too in his head or equipped with the wrong knowledge. This goes exactly into business as well. At least 50 percent of them are doing things wrong; targeting the wrong audience, demonstrating their brand terribly, or not retaining customers well by using the wrong tactics (see how this goes almost exactly into dating?).
Some are managed terribly; some are just shooting in the dark. These guys (if you’re doing things right) are not your competition. They’re the wallflowers in the room too scared to even talk to women (or doing what I love to call the “two feet creep”). Whether scared of rejection or simply being an idiot; these guys are basically not even in the same room. They’re simply in the game to inflate numbers if you’re doing things right.
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At least one out of every four guys or businesses are the deceitful and unethical ones. The bad eggs, the jerks, the Enrons of the dating game if you will. Now, yes, these guys can be successful and will be able to get away with certain things. However, the majority that fall for these games are probably people you shouldn’t be worried about losing in the first place. While these few do experience some success, it will be short lived and not long term.
“But they’re successful aren’t they? Shouldn’t we be worried?”
No, and here’s a pivotal truth why: it’s easy as hell to fake things in the beginning. We all tend to send our representatives in the beginning. We put our best foot forward and tend to try to hide any imperfections. Where these guys start to crumble is after the initial beginning, when facades and mirages start to fade, and a woman can see who a man really is. Again, they do get women and clients, however, it is only a matter of time before attraction starts to wear off, and they begin to demonstrate unattractive behaviors they originally covered up.
Any woman who truly loves herself will not tolerate this, nor do they want it. They want a man who is on top of his life and who’s not “so busy” because he is deceptive. You want to be bringing positivity and achievement into your life, and that will be how you’re so “busy.” You’re busy achieving and running your life and goals, and not solely seeking someone to be your “just right now” thing. Yes, that’s okay at times, but you need to constantly be seeking better and to be honest as well. If someone isn’t right just tell them, don’t drag things on. People can be full of it, and that’s pretty much exactly who this group of people is.
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This is the category that’s your true competition. Out of every four guys, only one is the right guy, knows what he’s doing (at least somewhat) and does the right thing. He is righteous, seeking to achieve his purpose and path, empowers and emboldens those close to him, and surrounds himself with the right people. He is constantly striving to make himself better. He is confident and stands tall, no matter the odds. He can absolutely own a room. He is a light to others with his compassion and humor in an age where people just don’t seem to care.
He is cultured, intelligent and understands that knowledge and time are power. He puts others before himself and is a light to others to be their best selves. This is the man you need to be. He may not always get everything his way but when things don’t, he understands the need to walk away and just let some things go. No need to sit there and stress about things one can’t control. He understands not everything will bounce his way, but he doesn’t care. He knows when one door closes, the next one will be there soon. He simply just has to keep digging.
Embolden and empower those around you with your kindness and compassion in striving to make the world a better place.
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This man understands women have already seen “the circus” and heard all the “pretty bullshit” before, but he still expresses how he feels (at the right time) because he knows life is short and he won’t wait around for the right time to go after things. He makes his moves and does not make excuses. He understands who he is and makes absolutely no excuses for that. This is the man you should to strive to be.
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Don’t be too shy to tell a woman you think she is absolutely gorgeous if you feel that way (now, you may need a more original compliment, but it remains the same). Embolden and empower those around you with your kindness and compassion in striving to make the world a better place, as we all have our battles to face, and we are not alone. Stand righteous and centered in your ideals. Always be seeking out your path. Be the light that brings happiness and attracts others in believing in possibilities. You are the hope that a woman has been waiting for and is tired of running into the other three guys. Always strive to be this one, never the other three.
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Photo: Flickr/ Dmitry Ryzhkov
Women love that 1 bad boy, and she will stay in that channel until she lasses one, brands it hers and ‘tames’ him, at which point she will promptly dump his Asus and find a new main line of dopamine.
Tis a stereotype for a reason, the behaviour is all too well documented