In general, in my creative practice (and life), I tend not to blanket things as “right” and “wrong”. Things can only be right or wrong for you in this moment, and even the wrong things can turn out to be right.
So I guess what I’m trying to tell you is that I wrote the title of this blog post out of succinctness rather than accuracy! Here’s the long version:
We tend to focus first on a question that doesn’t often serve us.
Editing issues aside, you probably want to know the question. To be honest, I don’t think you’re going to like it. Not at first, at least.
Here it is: The question that needs to wait is, “What should I do?”
I spend a lot of time speaking to fellow creatives and clever humans about their to do list, making action plans, and expanding creative practice.
It’s easy to write a list. It’s easy to find 10 things to do. I bet you have 10 things you think you should be doing right now.
The value and the wisdom and the secret key to success is asking a whole load of questions (and maybe getting some answers) BEFORE you ask what you should do.
- What am I really hoping to achieve?
- How do I want to feel?
- What’s the most important thing for me right now?
The more you can understand the problem you’re trying to solve, the art you’re trying to create, and the world you’re trying to influence, the easier it is to write a meaningful, prioritized to do list.
So, when you’re looking at your list, when you’re wondering what to do, rather than panicking or rushing, try taking a breath.
Remember what matters most to you.
Remember that you’re capable and clever and creative.
Remember that going fast in the wrong direction isn’t that helpful.
Remember what your direction looks and feels like.
Then ask that pesky question.
This post was previously published on Change Becomes You.
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