As long as you can pinpoint his key points, he will definitely show his tricks.
When a man has an extramarital affair, he is most afraid of being asked these three questions. As long as he is asked, he will feel guilty.
01 Question one: Why are you so happy, who did you just chat with?
A man who has an affair is bound to connect with that extramarital woman from time to time.
But he never dares to chat with each other in front of you, so he always chooses to send messages secretly when you are not paying attention.
But even if he is careful, there will still be many abnormal performances.
Especially when flirting with the other side and chatting with affection, it is inevitable that he will smile and even dance.
If you often find him stealing fun behind your back like this, you might as well find an opportunity to surprise him when he texts and ask out loud, “So happy, who are you talking to?”
At this moment, his reaction is enough to explain the problem.
If he’s not in a hurry and shows you his phone generously, then there’s probably no problem.
If he looks flustered, puts away his mobile phone and prepares to evacuate while fumbling you with words, then you can’t let him go easily.
Chatting so happily, but not dare to let you see, there must be something tricky in the middle.
02 Question two: What are you always busy with going out lately?
Relationships take time to maintain, and the same goes for extramarital affairs.
If a man has someone outside, he’s bound to sneak out every now and then to be with her.
But he doesn’t dare to make you suspicious, so he will go to great lengths to make up reasons that don’t sound flawless.
Maybe he can really fool you once or twice, but after a long time, you will definitely notice the difference.
Because there are only these excuses he can find, nothing more than working overtime, socializing, and having dinner with friends.
If he used it too much, let alone you, even he himself has begun to feel guilty.
But if he wants to go out to accompany the women, he will definitely bite the bullet and continue to tell these low-level lies.
Don’t worry, let him go a few times first, and when he thinks you have no doubts at all, suddenly ask him: “You always go out recently, what are you busy with?”
Because the first few times were too smooth, he had already relaxed his vigilance at this moment, and most of the reasons were not prepared in advance.
Whether it’s working overtime or having a meal with friends, if you ask someone casually, he will reveal his faults.
03 Question three: I didn’t see what you bought. Where did the money go?
Most of the extramarital affairs are very realistic. Without continuous financial investment, it will not last long at all.
When a man has a woman outside, a very significant feature is that his expenses will increase significantly. This is the hardest to hide.
After all, after being together for so long, you basically know how much money he can make, what daily expenses he has, and how much he can save in the end.
Now that you have lost so much money all of a sudden, the key is that you still don’t know where to use it. It is obvious that he is doing small tricks behind his back.
When the time is right, ask him where the money goes, and see what he says.
All in all, if he spent so much money, you will definitely be able to find corresponding evidence, and it is impossible to say clearly.
If he can’t justify himself, it can only show that he spent his money in places that cannot be said.
As the old saying goes, if you often walk by the river, how can you not get your shoes wet.
When a man has someone outside, he can’t hide it no matter what.
As long as these three questions are asked, he will quickly reveal himself.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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