When Men on Ashley Madison Lie

Men lie!

News flash.

Woah. Who would have thought? Cheating men cheat on their affair partner.

He’s still looking for fresh tail on Ashley Madison behind your back.

You sense something is “off.” His previous level of attention is not up to par. “What’s going on?” you think. You pop back on AM to see if he’s up to his old tricks.

You spot his “new” ad in an instant.

Same location, similar age, height, writing style all match up. No pics.

“I found you back on AM,” you text. “You motherf***er” you hiss, under your breath.

Silence. No typing. Then he starts.

“I canceled it. They just keep running my ad, I don’t know why.”
“I don’t think so. You are still on the prowl.”

“Wait. I was on there to see if you were there!”
“Yeah, right…”

After an appropriate amount of remorse, he pipes in.

“What gave it away?” he asks.
“I made up a junk account and you emailed me pics!”
“I was there to see if I could spot you!” he argues.

“You and I know that’s bullshit. I hope you get . We are done,” you announce.

Then you get depressed. Why wasn’t I good enough? Why did he have other women? Why did I believe him? What’s wrong with me?

Nothing is wrong with you.
Some men just want to get lots of attention (especially if they’ve been neglected in a dead bedroom for years).

Why did your affair partner cheat on you?

Variety
To keep you on the hook supplying sex
No accountability for their actions
Mismatched feelings. He feels no attachment.
Feeling inadequate and wanting approval

One thing I’ve learned in all my years in cheating land, you can’t trust someone who lies. This terrain comes with plenty of games and trickery. You must protect your heart.

Many of us do not want to believe our lovers are smashing other people yet, claiming to be “faithful” to us. But if the opportunity presented itself for a one night stand, I bet they’d take it. Or for another lover entirely if they felt they could get away with it.

The sexiest men have several of us on rotation. And then pretends he has only been on Ashley Madison for less than a week.

“Oh this is my first time.”
“You’re the only one I have had a meaningful conversation with…” 😂
“I have had no luck on AM so far.”

I’ve gotten plenty of this pony show. “Awww, he thinks I’m an affair virgin! How cute!”

“Do you want to be part of my stable?” isn’t exactly promoting feelings of attachment for most women. I know the hoops and jumps in the adultery obstacle course. No “real” feelings is #1.

I’m not a newbie. I know the ropes.
I could teach you a few things.

The lying and gaslighting are par for the course. Confront him and block. Move on. Let him enjoy the taste of his actions. He’s not going to pine for you. Believe me.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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