There are many qualities you may want to consider when looking for a potential partner. Here are a few to ponder, in no particular order, which may help you make a great choice when choosing a great partner.
For ease of writing, I’m going to refer to the female of the species when describing these traits, though they can apply to both men and women alike, you AND her.
1. She is a straight talker
She does not operate out of secret or hidden agendas. What you see is what you get with her and you know where you stand. You know when she is sad, you know when she is happy, you know when she is frustrated, you know when she is angry, you know when she is ecstatic. There is no second-guessing.
You might not like what you hear some of the time, and let’s not forget, she is a human with emotions just like you.
Provide her with the same (gentle) honesty, and she will love you for it. Notice I said ‘gentle’. Being honest is not a license to rip her down or bludgeon her with what you believe to be the truth.
Always act and speak out of kindness, as much as possible.
Caveat: this type of woman won’t necessarily be easy, and she will test you, BUT she’ll be worth every drop of blood, sweat, and tears you spend. She’ll make you a better man.
2. She looks after her body
She doesn’t have to be a 10. She doesn’t have to have the perfect body. I’m not talking about perky breasts, long legs, a Kardashian behind or an hourglass figure. But she wants to look good for you.
Just as importantly, she also wants to look good for herself. She is proud of who she is as a strong feminine woman. She has no need to flaunt herself but will turn heads purely because she has beautiful energy.
Accept her as she is, even when her body changes. Yours does also. There can be a lot of stress on a woman’s body that most men don’t consider or understand. Not to mention if she is ill. Your role is not to pressure her to look a certain way for you, but to love her through every phase her body goes through.
3. She is honest as the day is long
Her words and motivations can be trusted. She desires success, whether as a businesswoman, mother, friend or lover. She does not play mind games.
She likes what she likes and she knows what she needs. She pursues all she does with an honest, open heart, and at the end of the day, it is her heart that will stand her apart from all others.
4. She has lived a little
She’s not necessarily sweet Jane from next door (if there even is such a creature). She has traveled, worked, had previous relationships, and knows what the real world is like. As a result, she has developed depth, wisdom, knowledge, emotional intelligence & experience.
5. She is faithful
To herself and to you. She will love you and be devoted to you, purely because this is a value she holds deep. She is not out to acquire multiple male suitors, but is deeply content to be with her man. She knows how to hold you and be held by you. She’s not looking around for a better option. She is a woman you can trust. She wants and chooses to be with you.
6. She laughs a lot AND makes you laugh.
She has a great sense of humor, loves a joke, can see the lighter side of life. A woman like this will also be fun in a social setting.
7. Together you are good in bed
She floats your boat and you float hers. This is all about chemistry and sex. No use beating around the bush on this one. Whilst you may not necessarily look for this upfront, being sexually compatible is one of the most vulnerable connections we can make with another human being.
The technique can be worked on, but natural, open, intimacy, is a gift you both give and receive with respect & honor. I’m not talking multi-orgasmic porn-style sex. I am talking honest, fun, deep connection with your beloved, even if you fart in the process.
8. She will go anywhere with you
This is all about sharing the adventure. A woman like this will love to be taken on an adventure, be shown new things, will love the element of being spontaneous with you. Whether you travel to Italy or whether you decide to sleep out under the stars on the backyard trampoline. She will be there.
9. She can apologize
Humans are fallible. We say things we don’t mean at times. We can speak careless words when we are tired, under pressure, feel threatened, unsafe or unheard, men & women both.
A woman like this knows that the relationship is bigger than the argument. She does not want to hurt you or see you hurt. Ultimately her heart is soft toward you.
10. She will see the best in you
Like her, you are imperfect, but this matters little when the other person truly sees you for who you are. This is her focus when it comes to you. When she sees the best in you, it will motivate you to be the best you can be.
So there you have it. Ten traits to consider when sizing up a potential partner. It’s not like you need to go around and conduct a survey. Just have these in the back of your mind. Don’t make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past, and remember; if you want a great partner, make a great choice.
Best of luck.
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