In order to really succeed in life, these same kids will need to have learned to temper their self-importance with a healthy dose of self-awareness, and to generously convey a respect for others—all others—no matter what their personal feelings or judgments try to dictate.
We foolishly set the bar lower for boys than for girls when it comes to decent behavior and moral sensibilities.
Shifting from either/or thinking to both/and.
Demonstrating respect without enabling.
I don’t believe she’s the only teen who feels this way…
If we continue to think of bullying as primarily a schoolyard phenomenon, and overlook its seeding in the caustic repartee or controlling humor that dot our many different social dialogues, we will be blind to one of the ways in which our culture insidiously feeds intimidation and various plays of power.
Ditch the questions and become interesting enough that they want to talk with you.
The problem isn’t that the information or wisdom itself is bad.
Ever wonder why your teenager takes a pass on your advice? Especially when you know for a fact that it’s really good?
The timing is just right for a shift in how we think about masculine ideals.
Boys with bad sportsmanship act poorly not because they’re boys, but because they haven’t been taught or they haven’t learned that such behavior is unacceptable.
If you’re trying to get a read on the quality of your son’s sportsmanship, spend time observing how he handles his emotional reactions to winning and losing.
Games are games but they’re not free-for-alls. You don’t get to act any way you feel like acting just because you say you’re competitive, as if doing so gives you license to be ruthless.
Big, strong, athletically gifted boys have always dominated the social landscape of childhood.
If we can’t envision males who are empathic and masculine or strong, then how the heck are we ever going to raise them?
By mistaking unchecked behavior for undeveloped behavior, we allow unacceptable behavior in boys and men to be seen as just another part of “being a guy.”