Thanks to Sociological Images, today we have a special holiday edition of Pictoral Evidence of Gender-Enforcement Against Men. Warning: lotsa pictures below the cut.
Nice Guys Part Four: Ozy Forgets Post Titles And Noah Can’t Count
Warning: this is really long. This is what happens when you have multiple 200+ comment threads that crystallize all kinds of awesome new ideas for me. The majority of Nice Guys™ (once again, used gender-inclusively) are suffering from a common delusion: that the dating world is even remotely logical. Unfortunately, this is not true. I’m…
Open Thread, Star Trek Edition
This post has been brought to you by the unbearable d’awwwwwww-ness of Data.
Jimmy Kimmel’s I Gave My Kid A Terrible Present
Jimmy Kimmel (trigger warning for serious public embarrassment) asked parents to give their kids a “terrible present,” film their reactions, and post it on YouTube. Maybe I’m oversensitive, but I didn’t find this video funny at all: I actually thought it was horrifying. Imagine your parents tricking you into opening a present you didn’t want,…
CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey
Trigger warning for rape, abuse, sexual violence, and stalking. The CDC has recently released the results of a new, national, methodologically sound study about the prevalance of sexual violence and rape. Statistics, commentary, and angry ranting below.
Nice Guys Part Three: Why People Like Jerks
One of the most common Nice Guy™ complaints is that women like jerks preferentially to liking guys who are nice like them. I think this notion is common enough that it deserves a little examination. First, while some women do indeed dig jerks, so do some men, although in that case it’s usually called the…
Iraq War Ended
The Iraq war has ended. Today, the last American soldiers crossed the border from Iraq into Kuwait in a remarkably sad and untriumphant end to the nine-year war. My thoughts are mixed. I salute the American soldiers who fought bravely, even as I condemn the war and the many atrocities it brought. I mourn the tens…
International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers
(TW for mentions of rape.) Today is my birthday. Today is also the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. In lieu of gifts, i would like to request the following: 1) Everyone, please stop referring to sex workers as female. Many sex workers– from strippers to escorts to porn stars– are, in fact,…
Open Thread, God I Don’t Even Care You Were In Twilight Edition
This Open Thread has been brought to you by Ozy’s new imaginary girlfriend.
Nice Guys Part Two: Defining the Nice Guy(tm)
I think one of the biggest problems with talking about Nice Guys™ (I’m using the term gender-inclusively) is that there are several different kinds of people who fall under the Nice Guy™ umbrella. Admittedly, some forms of Nice Guy™ will evolve into other forms of Nice Guy™, much like Pokemon, but if you don’t know…
Nice Guys Part One: I Was A Nice Girl
My name is Ozy, and I was a Nice Girl ™. I had tangled, unbrushed hair that fell limply to my shoulders; my skin was a pizza crust of acne; my glasses were unflattering; I wore stained and torn clothes. I slouched and spoke in monosyllables. I’d spent the last fourteen years reading instead of…
Womanist Musings on Black Men and Police
Womanist Musings discusses the relationship black children have with the police. I have written previously about why I disagree with schools teaching kids about officer friendly. To be clear, cops have a long history of targeting people of colour for arrests, violence and death. What they may be willing to let go from a White…
Penn State
Trigger warning for rape. I really don’t want to talk about Penn State. I’m pretty sure that you can tell that I don’t want to talk about Penn State, because this post comes approximately two weeks after everyone stopped caring about Penn State. But apparently a post will not write itself if I just ignore the…
Asexual Men and Rape
Trigger warning for rape. A post discussing masculinity, asexuality and rape has been passed around Tumblr for a while, and I decided I ought to point everyone to it, because it provides a very interesting critique of virgin-shaming, rape apologism and fucked-up views of masculinity.
Open Thread, Eleven Edition
This Open Thread has been brought to you by every episode of Doctor Who ever.
JT Eberhard on Men and Anorexia
I have recently become addicted to watching Skepticon videos. Atheism! Rationality! Science! Vulvaless nematodes! Really, it’s everything a young angry atheist’s heart could desire. However, one video this year went far beyond the usual skeptic fare: JT Eberhard discussing his experience as a man living with anorexia.