Our e-book, free with a Gold Premium Membership, curates and collects some of our finest articles designed to change the conversation about men.
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“Nature uses only the longest threads to weave her patterns, so each small piece of her fabric reveals the organization of the entire tapestry.” – Richard Feynman
We are having a many-threaded conversation right here at The Good Men Project.
We talk about men. And goodness. And everything in between, including relationships of all kinds – parenthood, marriage, divorce, dating, gender and masculinity, sex, male friendship, mental health, and the values and experiences that accompany us through life’s many twists and turns.
Select Voices From The Conversation No One Else Is Having brings together these disparate threads in a compelling and thought-provoking e-book collection of essays that will challenge the way you think and approach all of these issues. It is a small but representative snapshot of “the conversation no one else is having.”
If you want to join in the largest, worldwide conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century, you can start anywhere. You’re welcome to join in. (More information on that below!)
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This e-book, which comes free when you sign-up for a Gold Premium Membership to The Good Men Project, includes the following selections:
Lisa Hickey on gender and modern masculinity:
“I was taught to believe that the plight of women was so difficult that I failed to see that men had problems too . . . . It’s been working on The Good Men Project that’s change me. I’ve since been shown “the man box” – the way in which men struggle with appearing to be a man . . . at all costs . . . . the easiest way to break through the glass ceiling might be to break down the walls first.”
Mark Greene on male platonic friendship and expressing affection:
“[I]t has become every man’s job to prove they can be trusted, in each and every interaction, day by day and case by case . . . And where does this leave men? Physically and emotionally isolated. Cut off from the deeply human physical contact that is provide to reduce stress, encourage self-esteem, and create community. Instead, we walk in the vast cownds of our cities alone in a desert of disconnection. Starving for physical connection.”
Thomas Fiffer on marriage and divorce:
“[U]nhealthy people meet deep psychological needs . . . They present a shiny surface of love and brightness and potential – while engaging in machinations, indoctrination, procrastination, and endless explanation as to why it’s all our fault that things aren’t working. They’re be better if we only them more. And we have a tendency to believe them, especially if we lack confidence or have low self-esteem.”
Joanna Schroeder on love and relationships:
“Every human’s ability to hear grief, sadness, panic, or whatever other big feelings are limited, and both you and your nice guy need boundaries so you don’t fall into a trap of one partner being broken and the other being the fixer.”
Mike Kasdan on mental health:
“There is a well-known and deep-seeded stigma about mental health in our society . . . . Being different can be uncomfortable; it can be isolating . . . . The inner workings of the human brain can be unsettling, irrational, and dark. Often we look at differences that we don’t fully understand and see them as an illness – something to be fixed or cured . . . . But what if everything we think we know is wrong?”
Heather Gray on intimacy:
“[T]he myth that it’s mostly men who fear intimacy continues to prosper. The reality is that dispelling this myth will mean facing some pretty inconvenient truths . . . . It’s no secret that some men have lacked healthy examples of connection, relationships, and intimacy. We’re still dealing with older beliefs about what “real men” do, don’t do, say, or don’t say. Healthy connection and close relationships weren’t always modeled for men. They end up craving something that they don’t know how to achieve.”
Wilhelm Cortez on gender:
“A concept of two genders not only limits ourselves but may be at the root of environmental destruction. . . . The binary gender boxes that we are socially conditioned to follow disregard the reality of gender . . . .Can we rethink the concept of gender in Western culture? Can we accept the diversity of human identity and gain better respect for diversity in nature?”
Dixie Gillaspie on men:
“Men are human. Yeah. They aren’t angels or devils. They aren’t demons or wild beasts. They aren’t inferior or superior. They get scared, they get stupid. They get hurt, they strike out . . . . They have needs and desires – and they have the same choice that I do, to control them or be controlled by them.”
Kimanzi Constable on life:
“I can tell you from personal experience that chasing your dreams is hard work. There are many ups and downs. There are many days when you want to quiet . . . [but] [a]s you take it one day at a time you’ll look up after a while and realize you’re there.”
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Friends,
I’ve been writing for GMP from the beginning and the dialogue and opportunities for participation just keep getting better and better. I encourage you all to take advantage of the many ways to get involved. Start wherever you feel most comfortable. I think you’ll find a comfortable place to learn and grow in the company of other creative and engaged men and women.
—deep-seeded stigma about mental health
Please take some time to overcome your prejudice. You harm far too many people with it.