This is a comment by Jon D on the post “Real Life 40 Year-Old Virgin“.
“Men really get hung up about penis size and it can only be due to porn and popular culture placing emphasis on size as a magic ticket to guaranteed pleasure.
“Lots of people enjoy playing sports but less than .0001% of us are good enough to be professionals. Basketball for example, involves awesomely talented, physically gifted and unusually tall, athletic and strong individuals who have worked their entire lives to be professionals.
“Now consider porn, where the men are talented sexual performers with unusually large penises that 95% of the population does not possess. They are hired to do a job and perform professionally based upon their higher level of ability and physical gifts much like a pro athlete. But men don’t seem to compare themselves on the court to Lebron like they would to porn actors.
“It’s worth studying why we feel such a sense of inadequacy when faced with the images of porn actors, and it’s not just men either. I’ve seen plenty of discussion involving women who feel inadequate because they don’t look like porn stars or seem to experience intense and powerful orgasms like they are led to believe should happen all the time. I think people are conditioned to expect to be able to have sex like the pros, to look like them, act like them. But nobody expects to be able to dunk a basketball and we’re all just fine with accepting that we never can.
“Ultimately I think that there is a poor dialogue about sex in our culture and many of our emotions about sex are negative. Shame, rejection, poor image, performance anxiety.”
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