Living a perfect life with a partner is the dream of everyone but not all people able to fulfill this dream. Good relationship life is always evolving and it needs attention, care, love, understanding, and many sacrifices to grow it in a better way.
In the evolving process of a relationship, you may come up with many ups and downs because you can’t force your partner to do everything according to your desires. Sometimes your partner does such things which you don’t like and it negatively affects the relationship life of both.
However, you have the power to change yourself and become a better partner- the kind of partner your spouse wants to have. Despite many ups and downs in relationship life, you can still live a better relationship life by becoming a better partner. And here are some of the best tips based on scientific research on becoming a better partner.
1. Listen to your partner:
The foremost thing to become a better partner is to first become a better listener.
When your partner talks to you about anything, just listen to him/her with full attention even if you don’t like the topic on which he/she is talking about. At least just try to show your partner that you are listing him/her with full attention and you are interested to listen to him/her.
If you listen to your partner carefully, he/she will start feeling that you are interested to listen to her/him and he/she will tell you everything, which is in his/her mind without any fear or hesitation. Just try to do that and it would positively affect your relationship life. “Understanding. Listen, forgive, apologize, and refrain from judgment.”
2. Support your partner’s dream:
One of the ways to become a better partner is to support the dream of your partner. Take interest in your partner’s dream and try to help him/her in achieving it. The more you help him/her in achieving his/her dream, the more he/she will start liking you.
For instance, if your partner is passionate to become a professional cricketer, always support him/her and help him/her to achieve it. When you take interest in the dream of your partner, he/she starts to take more interest in you. And it makes the relationship life very good.
3. Be patient:
Having good patience is mandatory to become a better partner. A good partner has good patience, tolerates the mistakes of his/her partner, and doesn’t expect his/her partner to be perfect. If you want to become a better partner, then learn to be more patient with your partner.
4. Don’t be a super-judgmental person:
No one wants his/her partner to be super-judgmental. If you are it, change yourself. Do not always judge your partner.
Give your partner space to share everything with you. If he/she shares anything, which you didn’t like, do not start judging him and rather encourage him/her to share such things.
Let your partner feel comfortable with you and prove that you are the best person with whom he/she is sharing his/her experiences.
5. Don’t become reactive rather become proactive:
Never always show reactions rather show solutions. If your partner does any mistake and suffering from hard times, try to find its solution rather than showing only reactions. For instance, if your partner is suffering from any financial issue, try to help in getting out of it rather than blaming him/her for his/her poor situation. Show your partner that you are always there for his/her help.
6. Don’t ignore your partner:
In life, you might be very busy at the office but to become a better partner, you should never ignore your partner. Prove to him/her that you take care of his/her feelings, rights, worth, time and you are always there for him/her. If you do any promise to him/her, always try to fulfill it on time. Surprise your partners with special gifts, write good morning text messages for them, in this way they’ll feel special and valuable.
7. Tell your partner he/she is special:
In living a healthy relationship life it is mandatory for both the partner to know that they are special for each other. Always make your partner feel that he/she is very special and irreplaceable. When you make your partner feel that she/he is very special to you, it brings them joy and happiness to life.
So, always makes your partner feel that you are very special to him/her and that is the key element to become a better partner. One of the best ways to make your partner feel special is by sending him/her handwritten love notes. In times of technology, most people do this via social media but it is always cool to express your feelings via handwritten love letters to your partner.
This will prove to your partner that you care about her/his feelings and make him/her feel that he/she is very special to you and by doing that, you will win the heart of your partner.
8. Tell your expectations to your partner:
We all have some kind of expectation from our partner and when it is not fulfilled, we often get frustrated. However, in many cases, our partner doesn’t know what we are expecting from him/her.
So, it is always better to communicate with him/her and tell him/her about our expectations so that he/she knows what we expect from him and finds a realistic way to fulfill it.
9. Complaint but never criticize:
Firstly we need to understand what criticism is? It is the attack on the character of a person with the intent to emotionally hurt him/her.
On the other hand, the complaint is the request for a change in the behavior of a person. When your partner complains about anything, try to improve it and consider it a request, and don’t get defensive rather put your energy to improve yourself so that your partner gets what he/she needs. And always try to avoid criticizing your partner intentionally or unintentionally. Criticism has detrimental impacts on the relationship so it is always better to avoid it.
These were the facts you need to keep in mind while having a relationship. They will prove to be beneficial if you are seeking a healthy relationship.
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