Some boys grow up and never quite feel like men. The Art of Manliness says you feel like a man when you start acting like one and offers some manly advice on how to begin.
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This video addresses the nagging feeling many men have that their masculinity is not fully actuated and they’re not part of the club. Being a man isn’t about aggressive behavior, scoring, or the other prevailing stereotypes. It’s about being the kind of man you want to be, and acting out that role consistently, even when it’s hard or uncomfortable. With nods to everyone from Aristotle to Teddy Roosevelt, The Art of Manliness takes us through the steps of achieving our own definition of manhood.
Here’s the link to the article that inspired the video.
Photo—Art of Manliness/YouTube
I’m on the fence with this. It reminded me of Professor Harold Hill in the “Music Man” and his using the “think system.” I understand the idea of guys thinking of what they want to be and then becoming that man. But doesn’t it come down to motivation? Why are some guys settling for less? Why are some guys lacking goals? The adolescents that I work with are given tools to maintain sobriety, tools to help them deal with stresses but if they’re not interested in using them or more specifically changing their life, the tools collect dust. So the… Read more »
Hi Tom I do. It know anything about your clients. Maybe the reason they do not change is what we in Scandinavia call sosial arv= Social inheritace. They carry on the values they grew up with. And often the emotional cost of social mobility is too high. You leave the groups you feel secure within and climb up …and that means you also must learn how to become a accepted member of other segments of society . Not everyone have the strength or faith in themselves to do that. .. And it takes good mental health also to be a… Read more »
Hi Thomas
This is interesting!
As a woman I do not want to become a man, but I need to improve as a person in so many ways.
So this video gives some good advice.
Still it is something about it that makes me uncomfortable…….
it is this weird talk about “how to become a man”. A man.
Does he mean how to become an mature person?
I have never looked at men and categorized them in two groups : “men” “not men.”
Saw the video, have a few pointers. 1. I DO NOT BELIEVE A MAN SHOULD WEAR A TIE, WATCH, SHORT HAIR AND SUIT TO BE A MAN. I think it’s just dumb to erase that a lot of men are not wearing ties, are not doing a clean-cut shave, or don’t grow a beard and still, guess what, they are Men doing manly things! And I feel funny seeing the effort of some people trying to hold up this tired stereotypes as the “we look as a Man Should, so you better bow down” in oh so many videos as… Read more »
Perhaps you should watch the video before commenting, it’s not actually about any of that.
Sincerely,
The guy who watched and was moved by the damn video.
Matt, I saw the entire video. Saw it to the end. Saw it twice. And I do agree with some pointers. But, guess what? I’m not shy to pointing out something that it’s in the middle of it that, for some reason, people tend to magically erase: there is just ONE stereotype of the Real Man, running across it all. Sincelery yours, my piercings, curly and Latin-American Ancestry. Oh, and since we’re at it: the day that a video tackles this things I’ve talked about MAAAAAAAYBE we can broaden the discussion. Instead of, you know, thinking there is something as… Read more »