Yes you can create everything you want in the upcoming year. Caterina Barregar shares how to get started.
What do you want from 2016? Are you looking for a loving relationship? More time with family or friends? A better relationship with yourself? A new job, home, or to be healthy and fit?
All of these are totally attainable when we plan and create action items that are easily completed. The key is to make them easy and achievable. If a thing seems too big, or too much like work, then it often gets put aside. In three or six months, or by next year, you rediscover those goals and maybe dust them off to look at them again, but you’re beating yourself up for not having accomplishing these objectives in the first place.
However, this cycle of setting goals and not achieving them is not set; it can be broken. Here are some proven methods to get it done:
You need to create a vision. See yourself a year from now, at the end of 2016. See yourself as the person who has completed your goal. Then, take a step back from December 31, 2016 and look at what you need to accomplish each month to get to your goal. Visualize yourself in that new car, the new home, in a loving relationship, and start looking for ways to achieve it.
Write down what it is that you want to achieve. When we actually put pen to paper, the brain registers it as something important. When you create lists and start to cross off items, it feels really good, doesn’t it? Furthermore, when you put a timeline on something that you need to do, it creates a sense of urgency; thus you are more likely to accomplish your goal.
Also, you want to recognize how you learn and process information. There are many ways people assimilate information:
Visual: If you are a visual learner, it is recommended that you create a vision board. To help form a picture in your mind, you can read books or watch videos. Put your board somewhere where you can see it, and then start manifesting what it is that you want. Do you want a healthier body? Do you want that once-in a-lifetime relationship? Is there a special home you would like to have? Do you have dreams of living by the water, the mountains, near snow, or the beach? Does this home have lots of large windows? You get the idea.
Auditory: If you are an auditory learner, and you want to begin or continue working on yourself and your relationship with yourself, then start listening to audiotapes.
Kinesthetic: Lastly, if you are a kinesthetic learner, you feel things. You feel your way through your daily tasks and challenges That doesn’t mean that you don’t set goals, it means that you are more likely to feel the energy of something, to see if it is right or wrong for you.
Of course the gremlins, the what-ifs, the nay-sayers, are always around, and they could be powerful in this coming year. Creating healthy boundaries around your precious time and energy is absolutely imperative. How can you live your best life if you don’t have time to take care of yourself?
One final measure is to move into action. Start small. Take baby steps. Create action items each week that move you towards your goal and celebrate when you have completed one of them. All of these accomplishments are a sure fire way of reaching your final objectives.
Setting goals or creating resolutions for the New Year isn’t the problem. The solution, though, is to follow through on those goals. Are you ready for 2016 and all the good it will bring to you? Why wouldn’t you be?
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