“Routine and predictability, the two pillars of stability, tend to stifle erotic spontaneity and creativity.”
As romantic relationships flourish and mature, lovers become emotionally dependent on each other. This closeness can be anxiety provoking—the fear of losing one’s life partner is hard to tolerate. In an effort to make love feel safe, many couples try to rid their shared life of anything risky and destabilizing. Case in point: Connie and Edward Sumner from Adrian Lyne’s 2002 erotic thriller, Unfaithful.
Some people cheat on the spouses they love
Connie, a stay-at-home married mom in her forties, is cheating on her gentle and caring husband,Edward, with a young and sexy Frenchman named Paul. According to conventional wisdom, Connie’s infidelity is a symptom of her dissatisfaction with her marriage, an unexpressed desire to end it. However, Connie and Edward’s marriage appears a happy one. While Connie’s relationship with Edward might have lost its erotic spark, it still offers the couple myriad domestic pleasures, a cozy togetherness.