I want to talk about these thoughts, feelings, and emotions that I believe all of us deal with. I know that I certainly do. Even as a lead trainer and a lead coach, impacting other people’s lives, doing big things, I still experience these thoughts and emotions. I’ve got this big event that I’m training for that I failed at last year, and I’m like, “Am I doing enough? Why am I doing this? Why am I training? Why am I even putting myself in these situations?”
I’m talking about being scared. I’m talking about thoughts of self-doubt and questioning yourself. Second-guessing the choices you’ve made and the steps you’ve taken toward a specific goal. Because I KNOW I’m not the only person who ever feels this way.
As hard as it is to admit that I’m scared, the ability to recognize it and then deal with that emotion, and be able to inspect the thoughts fear brings with it has helped me to be able to move past the fear. It’s important to recognize that it’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to be afraid. In fact, in many instances I would say being afraid, feeling fear, is a good thing. Fear is what helps to protect us and those closest to us. It’s been genetically programmed into our DNA as a survival instinct. But fear is more than that. It can also be an indication that we are moving in the right direction. You see when I’m scared I know that I’m truly on the right path, that I’m pushing myself, that I’m outside my comfort zone and that I’m taking steps every single day to make myself better and live my legacy.
I know that a big part of the reason so many people won’t talk about their fears is because it’s seen as being weak. But I would argue that really, the only weakness is allowing the fear to control who you are. Weakness isn’t being afraid; it’s allowing that feeling to keep you from doing the things in your life that you want to go out and do, from becoming the person who you truly want to become. THAT is what makes a person weak if you ask me.
However, I know that admitting you’re afraid and being open about it is easier said than done. I still struggle with it, myself. This is where your community, your relationships come into play. And I don’t just mean friends and family. I mean mentors. Coaches. Your pastor. Whoever it is in your life that you can talk to. The person that you can, in confidence, lean on and trust to tell them where you’re at emotionally.
It’s important to recognize that there’s power in being able to admit your fear to another. For several reasons. First, I think you’ll find out rather quickly that you’re not alone. Feeling fear is natural. And it’s something everyone deals with at some point in their life. Second, once you can admit it, you can then process it, work through it, and keep moving forward. I mean, this journey of life that we’re on, it’s all about experiences and growth and continuing to move forward. It’s not really about the finish line, right?
Previously published on natebaileyspeaks.com.
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