It’s always hard to know how to respond when your ex talks bad about you in front of the kids. For most of us, the first instinct is to defend ourselves, speak the truth, and stand up for fairness. But, for the sake of the kids that’s exactly what you don’t want to do.
Here are three things you can do instead.
#1 — Don’t react.
Your ex is probably trying to start an argument or get a negative reaction. Don’t give them that satisfaction.
#2 — Teach your kids what you want them to learn.
Your kids are watching, and they are learning. When you keep your cool you’re keeping the stress level down, keeping it peaceful for your children, and you’re teaching them not to lower themselves in similar situations.
#3 — Talk to your kids. Later
Your kids love you, be honest with them. You don’t have to be negative about your ex to show them your sincerity and love for them. They’ll understand the truth.
What you really want is to have a wonderful relationship with your kids for the rest of your life. And letting your ex provoke you into an argument in front of them won’t give you that. So don’t do it.