As I see it, there are only two places you can ever reside in: fear or love, and it’s impossible to coexist within both these two spaces simultaneously. There really is no middle ground.
Either you are completely open and committed to love, or you’re stuck in a space of hesitancy and resistance to love, otherwise known as “fear.”
You have two choices: you can either fear whatever surfaces within and takes place around you, or you can choose to love yourself dead thick in the middle of whatever you are experiencing through accepting everything exactly as it is, leveling up your self-awareness, embracing love and moving yourself one more step closer to a homecoming reunion bash with your authentic self.
Love is a decision, and love can always be chosen over fear regardless of what’s happening within or around you.
This is a choice that becomes particularly relevant upon stumbling into any new crossroads within life’s foreign terrain. Love itself, whether it’s self-love or the love you have for others, is an inward journey, and it’s one of acceptance, not perfection. I am referring to the uncharted periods of life where some confusion is bound to set in, and when the overall conceptual notion and possibility of even knowing how to love oneself, let alone anyone else, gets a tad more tricky.
Contrary to what the mind would have you believe, there really is not much to fear.
Life’s unknown prospects are not here to bite or dismember you. Their actual purpose is to reveal what is waiting on the other side of your fear. What’s actually terrifying us is the mind’s calculations (or more accurately, miscalculations) based on previous data that portrays the possible pitfalls and failures these unknown prospects may bring.
But we often forget, there really is no such thing as failure.
The same experience you are perceptually choosing to view as a costly mistake can instead be seen as the precise, valuable lesson you needed in order to redirect your course in the right direction, hence bringing you one step closer to into your heart space, which is where we’d all actually like to be before the world conditioned us otherwise.
The rising sensation of fear is never an accident.
Fear always shows up whenever the soul’s been desperately crying out for some relief. Your soul already knows the true mastery of your capabilities and through them what you can achieve. The soul is not viewing you through some tainted filter, it only sees greatness and believes your value as worth much more than the bucket of bullshit you’ve been sold regarding your purpose and meaning in life.
I mean really, do you honestly believe the entire reason for you existence on earth is to pay bills and die?
The soul continuously seeks out expansion and change…
And everything required to expand is outside the comfortable little box you’ve placed yourself in, and the best way out of it is to get really quiet and listen. No, I’m not referring to getting really quiet and listening to your thoughts or the projected influences of those around you. While there are times it’s important to make other people happy, that will always be near impossible if you don’t ever pause to consider focusing on what will make you happy too.
True happiness begins first within yourself, and then when your inner cup gradually becomes full, you will create and manifest love. This means you getting really quiet to only listen to YOURSELF and your own inner wisdom. It’s here within the stillness of your own mind that you’ll hear your innate intuitive guidance softly whispering to you your next steps towards freedom.
The darker periods in life oftentimes prove themselves to be incredible milestones of great clarity, valuable insight, and treasure troves of inner wisdom that inevitably leads to immersive personal transformation through heightened self-awareness and a full blown state of self-actualizing revolution.
The thing is, you cannot actually fully love yourself if you’re still hating on the unpleasant experiences that helped shape and mold you.
Turn around and face the shadows. See how they fade away into nothing more than temporary obstructions, but also something that permanently empowered, encouraged and pushed you towards creating the newly different positive lifestyle you’ve always wanted, but never believed you were worthy of living before.
And even though there may be times when you have to wave the “white flag” of surrender to the shadows of fear, it’s not surrendering in the way you think it is because the true definition of what surrender actually means is oftentimes misinterpreted…
People tend to lean towards assuming that surrender requires us to give way to something outside ourselves, and while there is some truth to this, in actuality what you are really giving way and surrendering too is yourself and the state of love.
Forget about letting go.
In fact toss that notion right out of your head. By compulsively focusing on what you think you need to let go of throws you the loop to continually attract more things you believe you need let go of. Instead put your energy into focusing on what it is you really want, then step back and allow these things to enter into your life. If you’re too busy blocking the flow by looking at what you feel needs to go, how will ever notice all the goodness that’s trying to come in. Get out of the doorway!
At all times exist multiple doorways that surround us. Each one of them contains the ability to completely begin your anew with a fresh perspective, but how do expect to create the life you’ve always wanted if you keep attempting lug your baggage jam packed with past fears in along with you.
Emotional maturity is accepting your feelings.
Not avoiding, fearing or turning away from them. Honestly, you’ll probably suck at it at first, but we all do. It takes guts to be the real deal and if being authentic were easy everyone out here would be rocking their heart’s on their sleeves.
It’s really not about becoming “fearless” either, but sensing fear’s presence and acknowledging its existence, but still courageously deciding to walk through that door anyways, fully open and ready to receive whatever incredible gifts lie on the other side without the attachment to need to know what they even look like.
If you’re finding yourself feeling paralyzed with the sensation of fear whenever you’re attempting something new and different, just pause and take a moment and consciously decide to choose love over fear. Be compassionate towards yourself and remember fear can happen to the best of us, especially if what we crave is a life filled to the brim with passion and purpose.
I’ve learned to always keep moving towards the higher vibration of love, and recently I’ve made it a personal vendetta of mine to help formulate an entire squad vibrating higher to roll through love’s gates alongside with me.
So which doorway will you enter, the new door before you now, containing the higher vibration of unification and love, or return to the past door behind you that contains the lower vibrations of separation and fear?
I choose love.
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