Marriage isn’t quite the “prison” people say it is for men. In fact, it has a lot of benefits.
It’s a funny sight. And you’ve seen it too. You go to a wedding and the women there are surrounding the bride congratulating her on a beautiful wedding and wishing her well for all the good times ahead. And you can tell who all the single women are at the wedding because they’re either crying that they’ll never get married or they’re flirting with all the other men there in hopes of getting married.
But when you look at the groom it’s a different scene. Instead of being smothered by his friend like the bride is, for some reason the men are patting the groom on the back and offering their condolences. They laugh and say things to him like “your life is over now” and “say goodbye to sex”. Sure, most of this in jest and good fun but I can’t help but look and wonder why women are being congratulated but men are being offered condolences. More importantly, I can’t help but wonder at what point did marriage get presumed to be so bad for men but so good for women. Especially since there are so many advantages men get out of marriage.
Men Get a Lot of Good Things out of Marriage
I’ll admit the wedding is for the women. Men just don’t need all the show and hype and don’t get as much of a kick out of the ceremony and celebration as women do. Point in fact: Women spend weeks bridal dress shopping where men go to the first tuxedo rental shop that has the colors their bride has picked out. But after the wedding day, men get plenty of good things out of marriage that is practical, fulfilling, and rewarding for a lifetime. Here are just a few:
Married men have more sex
One thing married men benefit from is that they actually have more sex than their single counterparts. A study by Dr Waite and her colleagues at the University of Chicago showed that married men have sex nearly twice as much as their single counterparts. That’s a pretty stark contrast to the grooms bachelor buddies at the wedding tell him his sex life is over. It would seem that the joke’s on them. The groom’s actually going to be having more sex than them.
Married men have better mental health
Everyone’s heard a husband say that his wife drives him crazy. But in fact, the opposite is true. Married men actually have better mental health than single men. Researchers at Harvard and UCLA did studies that showed that married men have less incidences of depression, anxiety and are even at less risk for Alzheimer’s disease. So it would seem that wives don’t drive husbands crazy after all. In fact, wives help to keep their husbands from going crazy.
Married men are more financially stable
Despite the popular idea that women drain men of their money, Dr. Waites’ study actually showed married men are more financially stable – they actually make more money.
Married Men Are Healthier
Numerous studies show that married men are healthier than their bachelor counterparts. They have lower blood sugar, and are at lower risk for things like hypertension, diabetes, obesity and high cholesterol. This may have to do with the good food they and their wives want their family to eat or the need to live longer for the sake of someone else, but whatever the reason married men are shown to be healthier than single men in a lot of ways.
Married men live longer
After reading that married men are healthier it might not be any surprise that men live longer, too. Studies out of the University of Louisville have found that married men live between 8 and 17 years longer than single men. Yep, you heard that right. They live between eight and seventeen years longer.
There are even more advantages that men get from marriage that I could go on and on about. For example, married men have less stress, and less alcohol or substance abuse – but I’ll save these for another article (stay tuned).
So it would seem that despite all the hype and excitement out there for women getting married, there should be just as much hype for men, too. After all, getting married means you’re going to make more money, be healthier, have more sex, have better mental health and live longer. And the icing on the cake is that you get to spend the rest of your life with the woman you love. So instead of jokingly offering condolences to a new groom while the bride gets so many congratulations and adulations, maybe men should be celebrating their friends’ marriage just as much, if not more, than the bride.
This post is republished on Medium.
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