My expectation of relationships has been based on fairytales, romantic comedy movies, family dynamics, and my friendships/relationships. In synthesis, my point of view of men has been skewed.
At the core of the heart, men are good humans. I see their motivation to provide and to love. But what happens in between this good-hearted love fest and strength, is what women see as faults. The am I good enough and lack of __________(fill in the blank) is what tears good men apart. That’s when their inner beast unleashes, mostly toward women. Because we pry, we are curious, we demand explanations of their inappropriate behavior.
Women want a strong and gentle sensitive man but he needs to use his strength whether it’s inner or outer strength to protect us. At times good men don’t get it right in women’s eyes. They are still in an inner beast mode where confusion overpowers their sense of self. “She asked for ___________(fill in the blank). But she’s still not happy. What did I do wrong?” Even when women do explain it, their filter captures some of the information to resolve the problem and not to understand.
Beast mode is ineffective to both women and men. It’s necessary when in battle, physical battle or dangerous situations. Not needed or wanted in daily common life. In fact, Beast Mode will push us away. Far away from you. Essentially it’s because women will feel misunderstood, not loved, not protected, and not provided for.
The strength of a man is what women admire. Not just physical strength because at some point that no longer is accessible when you age. I’m talking about inner strength and inner peace. Not only women desire to be understood, but that’s also orgasmic. In fact, that’s sexy. Do you understand me? Wow. I’m turned on. You can’t understand me in Beast Mode. You’re like a ball of fire destroying anything and everything in your way and I will run away from a moving fireball. I want to be safe not burned.
Here are three ways to bring back the good men:
- Self Love. Love yourself first because women notice. And I don’t mean in a destructive manner of doing selfish barbaric behaviors. I’m talking about healthy self-love. Some examples are: exercise, explore yourself, meditate, eat healthily, take time out for you, speak your mind in a calm state, cultivate your passions, and be creative.
- Redefine masculinity. Let go of past expectations of what a male has been. Redefine masculinity in your own terms. You can reject and accept what defines you as a healthy masculine. This is when traditions are broken down. The pieces you put back shape a completely different image of the puzzle. You are the puzzle and you are whole.
- Inner peace. Taming the Beast Mode will be a challenge. But aren’t good men or any man up for the challenge if it’s worth it? That’s what drives you to succeed. Not only will you be able to navigate life according to your true self, your alignment to vibrating love will provide a safe place for you first and then for others—Women, children, friends, family, colleagues, and_____________(fill in the blank).
I see you, good men. I see beneath the Beast Mode. The good news is you don’t have to carry this false persona. That’s not who you are. You were not born in Beast Mode. These qualities have helped you survive under times of stress, insecurity, and low self-worth. It’s an observational behavior. It’s a pattern from your ancestors. Ask yourself: Do I want to continue to pass down Beast Mode to the future men that are evolving? Do I want to show women and children what a good man is?
When men and women reject the unhealthy masculine sham through music, movies, books, advertisements, and social media, that is when we will revolutionize the new reality of the good men.
I see you, good men. Lead the way, good men. We are here to support you. We always have.
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